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Lou 20 Jan 2018, 05:41

Hi Austin

You are very welcome. Thank you very much for the clarification that she does wear multi focals.

Regarding how well she sees, I'm sorry but I can't really answer that.

Since her near add is the same as my husband, I'm guessing that the intermediate section of her multi focals probably equates to the +1.25 intermediate add he has for his separate computer glasses.

If you add this to her current script, it comes out as, -1.00/-1.00 x 100 and -1.50/-0.75 x 95

I'm not sure about the size of your table, but I would have thought that sitting opposite someone at dinner would be a greater distance than that used for viewing a computer.

On paper, I would have thought that she would see you as slightly blurred, but she obviously feels that she can see well enough, or she wouldn't keep taking off her glasses.

And no, since her near add will probably increase a little yet to +2.50 or maybe even +3.00, depending on how close she likes to read, I wouldn't have thought that she would become more reliant on glasses again.

I hope that this will help. Having only a small amount of long-sighted astigmatism myself, I have no idea how well someone with myopia and astigmatism sees.

Take care


Austin 20 Jan 2018, 04:41

Thanks for the info Lou. She does wear multi focals. So how well does she see? Am I blurred to her when she sits opposite me at dinner? Is she likely to become reliant on glasses again?

Lou 19 Jan 2018, 03:34

Hi Austin

I believe that the explanation is her age and near add of +2.00. My husband is 59, so not that different in age to your wife, and also has a near add of +2.00. Owing to his age, he also needs an intermediate addition, and his is +1.25. If your wife had an intermediate addition on her prescription, it would likely be much the same as that of my husband. Since he is a lot more near sighted than your wife, he wears varifocals all the time, taking them off only to read. I'm not sure whether your wife has varifocals, but if she has separate or only distance glasses, since her near prescription cancels out a lot of her distance prescription, she probably finds that she can see better without them near and intermediate, which is why she only puts them on to watch telly in the house. Even if your wife wears varifocals, maybe she finds that she can see almost as well without them within the relatively close distances within the house, so doesn't bother to wear them.

My father in law whose near sighted distance prescription is a lot lower than my husband's and only has distance glasses, has started taking his glasses off in the house over recent years, just wearing them for driving and when out and about. I believe it for the reasons which I suggest above.

I hope that this will help

Best wishes


Austin 19 Jan 2018, 03:02

My wife, aged 62 has worn glasses for over 40 years until about a year ago. Since then she rarely wears them inside unless watching tv. Out side and when driving she wears sunglasses other than at night when she reverts to glasses. She also rarely wears them at restaurants and when eating meals. Her current script is -2.25 / -1.00 x 100 and an add of 2.00 and -2.75 / -0.75 x 95 with an add of 2.00. She started taking her glasses off to read and then extended the time without them to the point today where she rarely wears them. Is this usual? How well does she see without them? Any thoughts as to how to convince her to return to wearing them? She does squint on occasions but surprisingly not very often.

Cactus Jack 26 Sep 2017, 21:35


Vision occurs in the brain. The eyes are merely biological cameras. The brain has amazing ability to generate images with poor input, IF it know what something is supposed to look line. In fact it can generate images with NO input at all. Ever had a dream?

Everyone is different. Some people are better at functioning without vision correction than others. You have no way of knowing what your gf perceives without her glasses. A description of her prescription as being in the -6 range is not very helpful. She could have significant astigmatism that makes her vision worse than yours without any astigmatism, we just don't have enough information to make a reasonable judgement.

Do you know how to check a lens for a Cylinder component?

If there is no astigmatism involved in her glasses, her ability to function could be related to the visual environment. If you are in a familiar environment and she is not very familiar with that environment, functioning without vision correction could be a big part of the problem.


Weirdeyes 26 Sep 2017, 16:50


I'm not myopic, but I definitely notice a lot of variation between how people describe their vision vs their prescription. My prescription is R +1.00, -0.75 L +4.25, -1.50. I've noticed a lot of people with a similar prescription to me describe themselves as blind without glasses. A lot of them don't even have astigmatism. I don't think I'm blind without glasses. Especially because my right eye prescription is so mild. I don't have the best depth perception, but I have no trouble showering and doing regular everyday tasks without glasses. I think my brain has adapted pretty well to my lack of depth perception, so I don't bump into stuff or have trouble grabbing stuff. My vision does get pretty wonky if I go without glasses for too long, so I do wear them most of the time.

Tobias 26 Sep 2017, 13:52

I am 35 yo male wearing R -8.5 L -8.25 glasses (no astigmatism). Since I am the only one in my family and my circle of friends with strong-ish myopia, I was really surprised to learn that my new gf (with rx in -6 range) literally cannot function without her glasses at all, while I can put them on in the morning only to check my facebook account (rather uncomfortable to look at my phone from 5cm) and than obviously to leave the apartment. How come she needs her glasses more than I do?

glassesforeveryone 21 Jul 2017, 18:44

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Soundmanpt 21 Jul 2017, 13:27


Sadly you're a bad position because your agent is from the "old school of thought about glasses" it used to be that if being a model or an actress you either wore contacts or you struggled without your glasses. But glasses have become much more popular now for models as well as actresses to wear modeling and on screen. You need to sit down with your agent and tell him that you really can't function very well without glasses anymore. It sounds like it would be unsafe for you to do any type of runway modeling if you're unable to see you could fall off the runway and get badly injured. Have him try and get you modeling jobs with eyeglass companies if possible. That way you could even get your own glasses and be borrowing glasses from a friend anymore. But even modeling other things such as clothes wearing glasses should be accepted by many companies these days.

sylvestria 21 Jul 2017, 12:34

I had many problems with me eyes. I do not see good and I borrow friends glasses many times. For me its good but she cannot see at the moment in time. over much time me eyes get very bad. her glasses become less helpful me. I do work as model and agent say he prefer I no glasses on set. I try for contacts but say me eyes dry and cannot. I sneak and get glasses because world much blurry. Cannot recognize people. Me eyes see things not real. I get close to see but things not what I think. I wear glasses private, but no public. Me eyes feel better much but glasses heavy so when shoot, I cannot. So I do not bring. I function but people far I cannot. agent thinks me eyes pretty and say glasses ruin sexy image. I want to post here because I want convince that wear glasses during shoot. Some shoots very bad because studio blurry. Camera see I cannot well. I think me eyes look lost in photos but agent believe it is a good look. agent tell me stop squinting hard. I do not want to lose because good agent. But is always blurry. Sorry me English not so good. Maybe good? I think you English judge me better. Seek ideas or should I stay blurry with glasses not.

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Apple77 25 Jun 2017, 18:46

Here's a rather elaborate blog about going without glasses:

Bensmith 16 Jun 2017, 06:04

An interesting little discussion about going without glasses with high myopia:!n=12

I personally do not know anyone anymore who would wear their glasses/contacts only part of the time. A while ago my girlfriend encountered a friend of hers in a fitness class and said that the friend didn't say hello "even though we were like next to each other". My girlfriend thought that maybe it was because her friend wasn't wearing her glasses. I wonder how blurry the instructor must have been if she couldn't recognize people even six feet away.

So I guess it happens, some people choose to go bareeyed in some circumstances.

NNVisitor 17 Apr 2017, 13:36


Miracles do happen. Your mother is a very lucky person. While my prescription is -10 I have quite a bit of astigmatism as well and I can tell you how headlights looked to me at night without my contacts or glasses. Both streetlights and vehicle headlights appeared as huge kaleidascope fragments. Things were incredibly blurred worse than it would be during the day.

GreginColo 17 Apr 2017, 12:14

T; you mentioned you can't imagine what you mother's uncorrected vision might be like. If you are curious, you can gain an approximation of that by being bare-eyed yourself and then adding some drugstore reading glasses in the highest Rx you can get, usually +3 or slightly higher. That would give you a rough approximation about how your

Mom might see without correction. Again, best wishes for a good recovery for her and thanks for sharing her story and what can happen if someone unpredictably and suddenly is without their glasses, especially with higher Rxs.

T 17 Apr 2017, 01:52

Thanks GreginColo, that's nice of you to say. She is fine, only a bit bruised up. I'm around -7 last time I checked, mum is -11.75 on her contacts. I feel blind as a bat with my vision and I don't think I'd feel safe crossing a street without visual aids. I can't even imagine what she sees at that level of nearsightedness.

She normally wears contact lenses and can't help but think that this could've been avoided had she worn them instead of her glasses.

GreginColo 16 Apr 2017, 19:35

T: thanks for sharing the story about your Mom; hopefully she is doing ok, physically and emotionally. Its good she had her friend there to help guide her to safety. It amazing how life can change in a split second, but hopefully this will soon be just a bad memory for her, but also a lesson to the rest of us, that its difficult to imagine what and how others are seeing, or not seeing, feeling, hearing, etc. Thanks for this post as a reminder. If you don;t mind me asking, what is your own Rx in relation to hers?

T 16 Apr 2017, 09:49

This thread reminded me of what happened to my mother.

A few weeks ago, my mother was driving at night and got T-boned crossing an intersection- her car spun and ended up facing on coming traffic. In the crash, her glasses flew off her face. She needed to get out of the car quickly to avoid being struck head on by the traffic but there was no way she could safely cross the road because she couldn't see the cars that were coming towards her (she said she could see the headlights but couldn't see enough to make a judgment on how far away they were/how fast they were approaching. Luckily her friend was there with her and found her glasses (turns out they were broken to the point they were unwearable) who helped her cross the road safely.

I wear glasses too although my eyes are not as bad as her so I can imagine what she went through. If she was alone, she would be in real trouble. I don't think people without nearsightedness like ours realise how difficult and scary it can be to live with it!

Soundmanpt 31 Mar 2017, 09:35


I'm surprised that you never asked her why she enjoyed wearing your glasses so much? I think she clearly must have liked the way your glasses felt to wear. And she probably liked how she looked wearing your glasses. When she first put your glasses on things were probably blurry but after she had the on for a little while her eyes adjusted to them and she would have been able to see nearly perfect with them on. It's possible since she was apparently a good friend to you that was her way of telling you that you're wearing glasses wasn't a big deal.

Jenny 30 Mar 2017, 18:48

Nah, even 6 years later her eyes are good. I think she did like the way they looked on her though, or maybe she thought everything looked trippy or something. My eyesight has always been pretty bad, but not to the extent where I felt completely helpless. I never really thought anything weird about it. Honestly I was always flattered that she liked them so much.

My sister's eyesight is much worse than mine though. I remember one time she had to call me into her room because she lost her glasses and couldn't see them (they were on her dresser right in front of her).

antonio 27 Mar 2017, 11:42

Interesting story, Jenny, how strong Were your glasses that time, do you remember, in high school?

Best regards , antonio

Soundmanpt 27 Mar 2017, 08:54


That seems to be a big thing between girls. In most cases the friend likes how you look wearing glasses and she is curious how she looks wearing your glasses. But your friend Lisa was clearly far more fascinated with your glasses than you would expect. Do you think she possibly found that she was able to see better with your glasses? If your glasses weren't very strong that could very well have been why she didn't want to return them. If you had any older glasses that was of no use to you anymore you could have given them to her. I have a feeling she would have gladly accepted. I have seen several cases where a friend will often wear her friends glasses when they are out together.

Jenny 27 Mar 2017, 01:59

We've all had that one friend who always needs to try on our glasses. For me that was my friend Lisa. I love the girl, but when we were in high school she always wanted to wear my glasses when we'd hang out. I remember one time I was at a sleepover party with her and a few other friends. She wanted to try on my glasses for a selfie and then literally would not give them back to me until the next day. Even wen we all went to bed she took them off and put them next to the table as if the were her glasses! The next day she put them on (once again as if they were hers) but then gave them back about an hour later. I honestly didn't mind too much, but still I sometimes had to remind her that I kind of need those to see.

varifocals 06 Jan 2017, 06:37

Thanks KL. It must have been difficult on stage with no glasses. In the past it was quite a problem. The opera singer Maria Callas was very short sighted & the comedian Harry Seacombe & they groped round in a blur in the pre contact days.

varifocals 06 Jan 2017, 06:37

Thanks KL. It must have been difficult on stage with no glasses. In the past it was quite a problem. The opera singer Maria Callas was very short sighted & the comedian Harry Seacombe & they groped round in a blur in the pre contact days.

varifocals 06 Jan 2017, 06:37

Thanks KL. It must have been difficult on stage with no glasses. In the past it was quite a problem. The opera singer Maria Callas was very short sighted & the comedian Harry Seacombe & they groped round in a blur in the pre contact days.

varifocals 06 Jan 2017, 06:27

Thanks Soundmanpat for your comments & it shows how things have changed. My friend was one of 3 sisters, her Father Irish & Mother Lebonese. A familar story trying to read the board at school & could not. It was only after the school threatened to take the parents to court for child cruelty was when she gor her first glasses at 11. Now schools do regular eye tests & locally they are very hot on it & so thats why so many wear glasses now & of course they are now "Cool"A lot of plussies are about & not so much myopic squinting either. In her case she met in a pub a guy with glasses too, more myopic than her , they hadsex & then there was a wedding.So she had several years of full time wear & it is when you suddenly have no glasses the blur seems worse. She is about -5 now & her husband -7. Glasses are not a problem as she has beeen the local mayoress.Are there any strong plussies who have been bare eyed?

Adam 04 Jan 2017, 11:20


My new story is at Sightings thread because it is more connected to that topic. I think that's also a good story.

Later I will have new Going without glasses stories, too.

Bensmith 04 Jan 2017, 04:18

Thanks for your story, Adam. I for one would love to hear more.

Soundmanpt 01 Jan 2017, 10:15


For any bride to be if she wears glasses often becomes a topic of discussion. If you look about you will find places where a woman asks if she should or shouldn't wear her glasses at her wedding? Of course only the bride and possibly the groom should answer. But she will ask the question I assume to see what other glasses wearing women did on their wedding day. So what I found of interest, even though I am a single man and have never been married, was the replies that were given. There was no clear choice. Some said that weren't yet married said that they intended to wear wear glasses on their wedding day because that how everyone has come to know her and they probably wouldn't even recognize her without her glasses and said that they would have to wear their glasses because without them they couldn't see well enough to walk down the isle. And some of these same ladies said that they might get new glasses that would go better with their wedding dress. Some said they would learn to wear contacts for that day. A few said that they hadn't been wearing glasses all that long and that they could still see well enough without their glasses so they planned on going without glasses for that day. Many could see a problem down the road when they would look back at their wedding pictures and she would be wearing dated glasses that were many years out of style. And just as you brought up many of the mothers entered into it by trying to convince their daughters to not wear glasses at their wedding. I found this most interesting because in the past mothers always seemed reluctant about their daughters starting to need glasses because they feared that that by wearing glasses it would ruin her looks and she would never find a man. But that seemed to have gone away and mothers were much more accepting their daughters need for glasses. But it seems to still pop up on the daughters biggest day of her life. I forgot to mention that some had pictures taken with and without glasses. It was interesting gto see all the different opinions and reasons.

varifocals 01 Jan 2017, 09:06

I found your comments on going without glasses interesting. Now of course glasses are more acceptable & I wonder why people endure the suffering. I am long sighted so my distance vision is not too bad. I did suffer with cronic headaches & it was only after an eye test I was told I was long sighted & now wear full time. I did try a bit without them & the cronic headaches returned. I have a friend locally who rose to be the local Mayoress. She always wears glasses now. She has 2 sisters who have perfect vision but was always made to feel the odd one by her family. She met this fellow myopic in a pub & they had sex then the bump!

There was a hurried catholic wedding & her mother nagged her not to wear her glasses to show off her nice almond shaped eyes. When she got into the car she saw the blur & of course nothing to help. her husband saw her comming down the aisle squinting like mad. He had a big row with her

varifocals 01 Jan 2017, 09:03

Hi Adam. A bit seems missing. My friend was nagged by her Mother not to wear her glasses for her wedding. He husband also myopic was livid seeing his bride squinting badly & this came up in all the pictures.

varifocals 01 Jan 2017, 09:01

Yes Adam I found your comments about your friend interesting. Now the mother later. The day was in the blur -5. All the wedding pictures showed her squinting badly & she had a massive headache. Not good.

Adam 31 Dec 2016, 22:41

I have a story about a girl who is one of my formers classmates. The story is about from 8-year-old until now (24-yrs-old). If you would like more stories like that, I can write more, I have some stories about girls going without glasses.

I realised at the first time she has unique shape of eyes which means a bit like Asian. I liked her eyes but her vision was okay until 11-yrs-old.

That was the time when I realized she is a bit cross-eyed and she was always complaining about her vision. The interesting thing is that I can"t remember any squintings. The other thing I realized is that she looked very cross-eyed when looking at near. About a month later than I realized these things, she got a -1 glasses.

As months were gone, her eyes looked straining more and more when she took off her glasses. I think that was because of accomodations. But squinting didn't come. About a year after she got her first glasses, I was in the swimming pool with her (without her glasses). We were in the buffet when she said she hardly can see the menu on the wall (but also can't remember squinting).

A bit later she got -2 glasses and after that she always told me that she can't see without her glasses.

She had that glasses for about 3 years. During these years she was squinting very hard without glasses (finally). During the last months she started squinting very hard even with glasses. We were 15-yrs old at that time so that was more and more exciting for me (and that was the start of my 'squinting fetish"). Besides that, her very cross-eyed look at near distance remained.

After that she got a -2,5 glasses. She had these glasses for about 4 years. During that time her squinting without glasses became worse and worse and even with glasses her eyes were a little bit squinting.

We haven't met too often during the last 5 years, but I know that her eyes are about -3 now and her slightly crossed eyes are the same. And her lower eyelids also show that she was squinting also during the last some years.

antonio 30 Dec 2016, 12:41

Neesa Jane,

could your good idea for next year be

to wear your new glasses out in public ?

How are you doing ?

best regards, antonio

KL 29 Dec 2016, 16:37

Varifocals - I take my glasses off on stage, which might last an hour or two at a time. It's most annoying and generally noticeable at first, then I kind of get used to it.

Last time I had to make an entrance down a flight of stairs partnered with a guy with a moderate plus prescription. I'm like minus 2.50 - 3, and I'd guess he's more than that.

Waiting in the wings the first night he asked me if I was wearing contacts, which I haven't done for the past 15 years. So we were quite the pair! Thankfully you can't actually tell when looking at us.

varifocals. 29 Dec 2016, 09:10

Yes like lens, interesting. I wonder if the pictures showed a lot of squinting as this is what has happened in 2 instances I know of & also a headache with the stress. Non glasses people do not seem to think of the problems this can cause. I my case I am long sighted & get headaches without glasses.

If I had a choice I would rather be myopic , like my wife.


Likelenses 28 Dec 2016, 17:50


Not for as long as a wedding, but last summer while at Cheryl's family reunion, she and I and other glasses wearers were asked if we would remove our glasses for photos. The reason given was the reflections.

When we removed them,we set them on a table,but then the photographer had us moving around a very large property,and home,for all of his various shots,while our glasses lay there abandoned on the table.

The whole ordeal lasted about forty five minutes,and when it ended we had to navigate back to the table to find our glasses.

We probably had the highest prescriptions ,so we were a sight to behold.

We were sent copies of the photos,and we both think we look ridiculous in those bare eyed photos.

KNIFE 28 Dec 2016, 16:27


Varifocals 28 Dec 2016, 09:10

Has anyone had to go through the trauma of no glasses, at say a wedding.


Myla 27 Dec 2016, 14:24

Neesa Jane

I think you should just start wearing the glasses all the time. I don't know how long ago you bullied those girls about their glasses, but there's a chance some of them have gotten over it. Just be prepared to be the geek with thick glasses for awhile. If they get broken, just tape them back together if you can and get by until you can get a new pair. You could also try wearing a strap to help prevent them from getting snatched off your face. You can't undo the past, you can only endure the consequences of your choices, then move forward. School doesn't last forever anyway - one day, you will never have to see your classmates again.

Soundmanpt 26 Dec 2016, 17:05

I am a forgiving type of person and I would feel bad for Nessa Jane if she had only teased other girls about their need for glasses but taking their glasses away and then even worse yet breaking them was a terrible thing to do. She left those poor girls to struggle until they could get new glasses and in some cases i'm sure the cost of new glasses was a hardship on her parents. Honestly it isn't for me or others to judge her. But it seems that her judgement has come from above. Now Nessa Jane's eyesight seems to have gone from being good to quite bad in a rather short time. So now she sees what it's like when your eyes don't work so well anymore. But now for her she has to be concerned that once she starts wearing glasses things are sure to be even more blurry then it is now when she takes her glasses off. And she will be living in fear that someone she abused before will grab her glasses off her face and she may not even be able to see who the person is that has her glasses. If they decide to break her glasses it will be that much worse for her because she will be without glasses for at least several days. At some point though she is going to have to get glasses because it seems someone higher up is taking away her eyesight.

antonio 26 Dec 2016, 12:13

Neesa Jane,

you are right, not all people here are nice,

but some really are.

If you like to chat about your eyes, vision and your new glasses, just email me to

feel free and happy Christmas,

cu, antonio

Likelenses 25 Dec 2016, 23:07

Deutschland Damon

It has long been known that a persons intelligence,and character,can be determined by how they express themselves verbally.

Those that use profanity,and vulgarity,are on the low end of the scale in these traits,unless of course there is mental illness,in which case it is understandable.

Deutschland Damon 25 Dec 2016, 08:51

moonshiner, please remove this longtime jackass from here.

I think it's quite funny watching someone who supposedly thinks they are the grammar police. likelenses uses run-on sentences, incorrect use of capitalization and punctuation, doesn't know how to use commas, and more.

I am not the same person as neesa jane. So typical of this racist asshole to think all his attacks come from a single person. But it is very obvious that you are the anon poster below. I have watched you in the past and this is your modus operadi.

Look at that, likelenses. My grammar is better is better than yours and English is my second language.

moonshiner - ban likelenses PLEASE. His only apparent joy is to create hostility and mock others. He consistently violates the rules of your forum.

sorry, but I must say this. Get rid of this asshole.

Likelenses 25 Dec 2016, 00:35

The poor command of the English language, as well as the failure to use capital letters,along with the vulgar language, tells me that Deutschland Damon and neesa jane are the same person.

Likelenses 25 Dec 2016, 00:16

Christmas eve Cheryl,and I drove around looking at the outdoor Christmas lights.

I was driving and after a while she removed her glasses,and said that she enjoys the lights blurred.She did the same thing last summer,while viewing fireworks.

The funny thing is when she does this she squints like crazy.Before getting her bifocals,she would never squint without glasses,but had a blank unfocused look in her eyes.Perhaps now with her eyes used to bifocals,they want to hunt for a clear view,when the glasses are removed.

Deutschland Damon 24 Dec 2016, 19:36

moonshiner, i add my hat to the people who want this likelenses retard banned.

on christmas eve he continues to attack neesa jane and call her dummy. it is obvious the anon postings are from him as well. yes i have seen his other racist postings about mexicans and other racists.

we have enough problems with history of racists in my country. why does your country allow an openly racist jerk stay on this forum. he is clearly violating the rules.

forgive my language, but i must say, can someone please kick this asshole in the nuts and throw him out off the gangplank? i think we all would cheer his goodbye.

antonio 24 Dec 2016, 15:34

Neesa Jane,

I.m glad to hear you found out some glasses can make you see again clearly

Nearly all of us here are thankful every day when we put them on that glasses exist to clear up our foggy sight that much.

I.m sure there exist worse things in life than our need for glasses.

I wish at Christmas that you feel encouraged to wear yours more than you have done so far.

I think when wearing them you also could show to the world,

you have learned now how precious our lenses can be

for their wearer and I.m sure this experience will make you a much more valuable, decent and honourable character than you might have been before.

So maybe these lenses will clear up your sight

in future and clear your soul for the things that are really

important in life. It's strange that Sometimes even an imperfection

Can make us more perfect, honourable and better in another way, isn.t it?

I.m glad you came here and hope we could help you a little and clear up your way. If you like come to to discuss. Happy Christmas!

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