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Likelenses 05 Mar 2018, 22:25

Kelly

I sure hope that things are different for you today, and that you can afford glasses that you like, and that make you feel attractive.

Growing up, I knew some kids that got their initial pair of glasses, but due to family financial conditions, went many years with the same outdated prescription, as every year they seemed to squint more, and many times the teacher would move them to the front row.

On occasion, some of them would actually get out of their front row seats, and walk up to the board to see what was written on it. Some had frames that had home made repairs with tape or glue, or did not fit properly due to growth.

A few when they did finally get new glasses, seemed to have a significantly stronger prescription, that they seemed to have trouble getting used to.


Weirdeyes 05 Mar 2018, 19:06

Kelly

I didnít have to deal with a super bad blur, but I did and still do deal with uncomfortable vision. When I was nine years old I noticed there was something off about my vision. I didnít know exactly what, but I suspected I needed glasses. When I got my eyes tested I didnít end up needing glasses. Two years later I did get glasses, but I had no prescription in my right eye and +1.25 in my left eye. I was surprised I supposedly only had bad vision in one eye and that Iím farsighted. I remember having a bit of issues with distance vision. Eventually those glasses felt too weak, but my glasses werenít getting much stronger. I also noticed issues with fine details like threading needles. Eventually the prescription in my left eye jumped up way higher, but the right eye stayed close to zero. Right now I still have a weak prescription in my right eye and a strong-ish one in my left eye. I struggle a lot with eye strain, but at least my astigmatism is corrected properly so I can see pretty well in the distance with my glasses.


Kelly 05 Mar 2018, 17:39

I thought I would share my store here. If you don't believe me, that is your personal choice. I have no reason to tell such a humiliating story. Yes as I said my teachers and friends did try to help me out. Teachers would let me sit in the front of the class and often sent me to the nurse for eye exams. Of course I failed more and more lines over the years, and the nurse would send home letters to my parents. Some of my girlfriends would let me borrow their glasses for some classes. I was always so amazed how different the world looked through their glasses.

But my parents always told me they could not afford glasses and I had to deal with it. I think there was another reason too because my mother grew up needing glasses for a very long time and she always told me she learned how to live with bad eyes and I could do it too. I really did try my best to do that because I felt like she was counting on me. Many times I would pretend to see things that I could not see so she that would not realize how bad my eyes really were. I started to feel like giving in and getting glasses would be admitting a personal failure. So I struggled hard to see. I thought when I was young that if I struggled hard enough I would always be able to see, but every year my eyes just got worse instead of better. After a few years there were some things I could not see no matter how hard I squinted my eyes.

Yes I know there are places where you can get cheap glasses. But they didn't exist in my younger pre-glasses days. I grew up in the 60s-70s and there were no cheap glasses options. People who did not grow up during that time frame don't understand that healthcare access was not the same back then as it is now. I think some people today might be surprised how many people need glasses but cannot find a way to afford them.

Did anyone else here have to struggle through blur for a long time?


Lou 05 Mar 2018, 06:04

Hi Likelenses

Re. Yes, even with low prescriptions the eyes become VERY used to the lenses.

I completely agree.

Best wishes

Lou


 05 Mar 2018, 06:02

Hi Soundmanpt

Thanks very much. Yes, I'm perfectly comfortable being a full-time glasses wearer. Although I previously found my glasses useful for music, the computer, tv and driving, particularly long distance and at night, I found that once I'd worn them, I didn't like the slightly blurred vision I'd notice once I took them off, and would get also get eye strain. I'd therefore not wear them at all some days when I was doing less visually demanding tasks, and on the days when I did wear them, I would then wear them for the rest of the day.

Since I was wearing my glasses all day quite a few days of the week anyhow, the switch to full-time has been easy, and nobody has really noticed any difference, since my orchestra colleagues are used to seeing me in glasses, and just probably didn't know that I previously didn't wear glasses on non orchestra days.

I am enjoying having good vision all the time, but even more, I'm enjoying no longer having intermittent inconsistent vision, particularly in the evenings, when I do a lot of night driving and orchestral concerts.

Regarding, "I bet even in the pouring rain you missed not having your glasses on didn't you? Besides not seeing as well.", other than the slightly blurred vision, I wasn't really bothered. My only slight regret is that I don't also have a more subtle frame, as I chose my previous glasses before I started wearing them full-time.

I have a three pairs of regular glasses (two are my previous prescription pairs re-glazed) and a pair of reactions. They are all a similar style, plastic in a slightly shallower depth than some of the current styles.

These are the pair I wear most:

i.e. https://www.specsavers.co.uk/glasses/sdo-ashleigh?sku=30515192

I think that these bold plastic frames suit me, but I don't think that they would go with a nice dress for a social function.

For smarter occasions, I tend to wear my reactions pair, because they have a slightly slimmer frame in plain black:

https://www.specsavers.co.uk/glasses/kylie-10?sku=30520240

I previously have had semi-rimless frames, and think that these or even a rimless

All the best

Lou


Bensmith 05 Mar 2018, 05:05

A nice little sighting. In the break room, two students were having lunch, neither wearing glasses. Suddenly the other stood up and walked to the recycling bins below the sink asking her friend if they were for rubbish. At the same time as her friend said "no", she hunched down to read the signs on the bins, getting quite close to them. When returning to the table, she quickly said something like "I can't read those" and her friend just said "yeah" and changed the subject. A while later, when they were about to leave, her friend said "the rubbish bins are over there" because of course the shortsighted girl hadn't been able to locate them and had just sat there not knowing what to do. Next to the rubbish bin, she again leaned closer to read what it said but didn't say anything about it.


Likelenses 05 Mar 2018, 00:00

Lou

Yes, even with low prescriptions the eyes become VERY used to the lenses.


Soundmanpt 04 Mar 2018, 12:27

Lou

Like you know, your eyes haven't gotten any worse since you started wearing your glasses full time, they have just gotten used to seeing everything through your glasses. Like you know your prescription is really very weak but even a weak prescription is sure to make a difference when you wear your glasses all the time. That's exactly why your optometrists suggested that you wear wear your glasses full time so your eyes don't have the problem they were having with adjusting back and forth when you were only wearing your glasses part time.Look at this way, you wouldn't need glasses at all if you didn't notice a change without them now. Yes even though you could legally drive without your glasses because your eyes are so used to seeing with your glasses you are right to keep your glasses on when driving because there is no doubt you see better with your glasses than you do without them. Now if oyu were to stop wearing your glasses for a few days your eyes would again get used to not seeing with them and you would probably be fine without them. except for having the issues you were dealing with before return. but I think you're happy being a full time glasses wearer now and because you enjoy seeing everything perfectly with your glasses. I bet even in the pouring rain you missed not having yur glasses on didn't you? Besides not seeing as well.


Lou 04 Mar 2018, 09:41

Hi

As I said quite a few times, my prescription is very small:

R: +0.50 Sph -0.50 Cyl Axis 92

L: +0.25 Sph -0.25 Cyl Axis 85

My prescription was the same in 2012, went up to +0.75 Sph -0.75 Cyl and +0.50 Sph and -0.50 Cyl in between, and then down again.

As I said on one of the other threads, although my prescription had gone down, my eye strain had gone up, and I was sometimes having difficulty with my eyes relaxing sufficiently when I put my glasses on later in the day, when my eyes were already strained.

In June, my optician recommended wearing my glasses full-time, to stop this cycle of over accommodating without my glasses, and then finding it difficult to fully relax my eyes when I put my glasses on.

I took her advice of putting my glasses on as soon as I wake, and keeping them on all day, and it has solved all my issues.

Since I am wearing my glasses other than in the shower, I don't really see what my uncorrected vision is like, at any distance other than the shower.

Today, my parents visited, and I went with them to walk their dog. It absolutely poured, and I eventually took my glasses off, owing to them misting up and not clearing.

I reckon that I walked around a mile home, and I was pretty shocked what my uncorrected distance vision is like, especially since my prescription is so small.

Although I can legally drive without glasses, I don't think I'd want to.

I don't think that my vision has really changed, since I can still see well with my glasses, but it definitely seems worse than I remember.

All the best

Lou


Maxim 04 Mar 2018, 07:16

Re: Kellys story

Is this story true, or just a story?

I cannot believe that. In many European countries, glasses for children are provided by Social Security structures, and vision test are in Kindergartens and schools. In the US, Zenni sells glasses for 6.95$, the price of three hamburgers or two packs of cigarettes. No teacher, or community employee or parent of school mates saw this problem and could help out? A child - left alone by the parents, the greater family (a greater family might be non-existent), the teachers, the community?

A sad, sad story - and I do hope it is not real, that it is a fake story! But my fear is, the story is true.

So, every story needs a good outcome: and here the outcome is, let us all keep our eyes (and our hearts, and our money bags) wide, wide open, that stories like this don't repeat!


Likelenses 03 Mar 2018, 20:13

Kelly

What is your prescription now, and how old are you?


Kelly 03 Mar 2018, 16:58

I grew up in a poor family that could not always afford health care. I started noticing blurriness when I was in about second grade. My parents could not afford glasses and my eyes got worse every year. There were things I could see one year but next year they were blurry. The teachers knew my eyes were bad so they tried to help. Sometimes in school friends would let me borrow their glasses for a class because they knew how bad I couldn't see and felt sorry for me. I think it was junior high school when I finally got glasses. By that time I couldn't recognize people fifteen feet away. The eye doctor said I had a very high prescription for getting my first glasses and told me if I got glasses sooner maybe my eyes would not be so bad. It was truly a different world for me with glasses. Every single thing in my life changed. I would call myself almost blind. But there was nothing I could do. Sometimes you grow up in a family and situation where you just have to learn to live with really bad eyes.


Paul in Chi town 22 Feb 2018, 16:05

Adam..I was prescribed -0.75 for distance and sparingly wore them, mostly for night driving. I think my distance vision was mostly good, and didn't really need them during the day. I decided to try them during the day for about a week, and noticed a distinct blur when I took them off that certainly wasn't there before I put them on. Because I can see clearly with the glasses on, I interpret that as meaning my "acuity" did not get worse (if it did then the glasses would no longer be "strong" enough) but that visual processing changed as my brain got used to them. So I conclude that while wearing the glasses did not make my vision worse, I unfortunately am becoming more dependent on them for clear distance vision. I have to have a vision screening for my DL, and expect a restriction that I likely wouldn't have gotten if I didn't wear the glasses so often.


Adam 21 Feb 2018, 12:48

NNVisitor

Of course, the biggest reason is genetics but I think straining your eyes and squinting without glasses can make eyes worse, or at least make them tired and red.

About the other part of your comment, I think the ones who are starting to wear glasses will be uncomfortable without glasses earlier than their eyes get worse, it is just about 2 months. If I imagine a more severe situation that someone's eyes are worsening 1,5 diopters a year, it is just 0,25 diopters in 2 months, it is nothing (okay, I know it is not totally linear but I think it's a good example).


NNVisitor 20 Feb 2018, 23:28

Wearing or not wearing glasses won't stop our eyesight from getting worse. People who wear glasses have seen their eyes get worse and worse. People who limit their glasses wear as well and people who don't wear glasses when prescribed. Close work and long hours of studying or reading may make our eyesight worse. That's why it's good to take breaks from continuous close work or reading and focus on things far away.


Adam 20 Feb 2018, 12:56

It is quite hard to tell what is the truth but I don't agree with those who say that wearing glasses will make your eyes worse. On the other hand, and that can be the reason of that theory, someone who starts to wear glasses will be uncomfortable without glasses even within 1-2 months. But I think the reason is that they get used to good vision and they will feel their original vision bad.

By the way, I love to see girls squinting and struggling to see, it is strange even for me to accept it, but for me it is a big fetish.


Soundmanpt 20 Feb 2018, 09:40

Tom

I completely agree with you. Eyesight is most often determined by the genes that you receive at birth. Then vision continues to change due to growth. Most people's growth doesn't stop until their in their early to mid twenties. So by holding off form getting glasses when you first need them isn't going to change anything. So instead of getting glasses early when they are first needed at say -.50 or -.75 holding off for 2 years would maybe result in then needing -1.25 or -1.50 glasses. The very same result would happen if that person got their glasses when they first needed them at -.50 or -.75. In other words not getting glasses early on wouldn't change anything in regards to making your eyesight worse and getting glasses and wearing them would yield the same result.

So if your girlfriend would have gone to full time wear when she was 18 instead of only wearing her glasses to see the board, drive and at the movies her eyes would changed the exact same way as they did. I always find it amusing when someone tells me that they try to wear their glasses too much because they don't want to become dependent.


Tom 20 Feb 2018, 00:47

Adam

I do not agree with anonymous.

I'd say most people experience their worst prescription increases between 12 and 20y of age, and such has not much to do with wearing their glasses. A girlfriend I had started college at 18y needing glasses only to see the blackboard, drive her car, and go to the movies. But 4y later she had become fully dependent on specs, and she put them on first thing in the morning. I remember her telling me once that her prescription increased by 1 to 1.5 diopter per year. Even though she had always tried to wear them only when strictly needed.


 19 Feb 2018, 20:13

wearing glasses actually makes your eyes worse. she would not have eyes so bad now if she never got them in the first place.


Adam 19 Feb 2018, 13:53

This story is about a girl who was my classmate and refused to wear her glasses for 3 years but became dependent on glasses then.

She started squinting when she was 11 years old. A bit later she got -0,5 glasses. She almost never wore them, she was squinting to see the board instead. As time has passed, it seemed obvious that she is not comfortable without glasses but didn't want to use them.

After three years of squinting during the lessons, she became a fully glasses wearer. Her eyes worsened and maybe she admitted that she needs them. She got totally used to her glasses in some month. She took them off only during PE classes and it became more obvious that she needs to wear glasses, her eyes were always squinty without them. I think this prescription was about -1,5. At the swimming pool she started to struggle realizing us, her vision started to be poorer.

After some months, she swiched to contacts but once I have heard a talk about her eyes. It was two years after she started wearing glasses full time. She said that her left eye is -3 and her right eye is -2,75.

I don't know the reason why her eyes became worse quite fast but it is maybe because she refused to wear her glasses for three years. What do you think of it? We haven't met for years but I saw a picture about her wearing glasses and her eyes became worse than the last time I saw her.


Lou 23 Jan 2018, 10:27

Hi again Austin

Sorry, I meant to add that I don't really know whether contact lenses would be a better choice for your wife. Probably multi focal contact lenses would give her worse vision than with glasses, and since she is happy to go without her glasses in the house, she probably sees no need for contact lenses. I suppose it would depend on her individual reason for taking off her glasses. If she is fed up with wearing glasses but wishes that her vision was a little sharper without, maybe multi focal contact lenses or mono vision with contact lenses would be worth a try.

Best wishes

Lou


Lou 23 Jan 2018, 10:21

Hi Austin

Re.: Thanks yet again Lou. Am I right in understanding that for most of her close work, her vision is not as clear as with glasses and that she simply finds it easier to go without glasses rather than putting them on and off regularly? Would contacts be a better option?

You are again very welcome.

If you add your wife's near add to her distance prescription, her reading prescription is:

-0.25 / -1.00 x 100 and -0.75 / -0.75 x 95

Her vision is at its worst in the distance, and gradually improves with closer distances, until it is at its best close up.

Her -1.00 x 100 and -0.75 x 95 cylinder values suggest that she has significant (this is probably subjective, but astigmatism probably starts becoming a nuisance for most people around the 0.75 mark) astigmatism, which will distort/blur her vision at all distances

Regarding the sphere values on your wife's prescription, when you add her +2.00 reading add to her distance prescription, as shown above, she only needs -0.25 and -0.75 respectively for her right and left eyes for close work. Therefore considering her sphere values alone, since they remain negative numbers, taking off her glasses, is equivalent to someone with no refractive error putting on +0.25 and +0.75 respectively reading glasses. I would have thought that this would have been offset with her -1.00 and -0.75 respectively uncorrected cylinder, but things are further complicated by her choice of reading distance. If she prefers to read closer than what the optician presumed, her reading add requirement could be +2.50, which would alter her reading prescription to:

+0.25 / -1.00 x 100 and -0.25 / -0.75 x 95

As you can see now, the sphere values are getting very low, and since astigmatism often has a greater effect in the distance than at near (I have a small amount of long-sighted astigmatism, so you would think that it would effect me more at near, but in reality, I find my vision more blurred at intermediate and far distances than at near), maybe she can see so similarly at near, that after forty years of glasses, she is enjoying being able to manage without glasses around the house. I just don't know. My guess is that now that he is older and needs a +2.00 reading addition, that she can now see well enough at near and intermediate to manage without glasses, and it is her choice to only wear them for distances rather than full-time, simply because this has become a possibility for her as her reading add has increased with age.

I hope that this will be of some help.

Best wishes

Lou


Austin 23 Jan 2018, 01:31

Thanks yet again Lou. Am I right in understanding that for most of her close work, her vision is not as clear as with glasses and that she simply finds it easier to go without glasses rather than putting them on and off regularly? Would contacts be a better option?


Lou 20 Jan 2018, 05:41

Hi Austin

You are very welcome. Thank you very much for the clarification that she does wear multi focals.

Regarding how well she sees, I'm sorry but I can't really answer that.

Since her near add is the same as my husband, I'm guessing that the intermediate section of her multi focals probably equates to the +1.25 intermediate add he has for his separate computer glasses.

If you add this to her current script, it comes out as, -1.00/-1.00 x 100 and -1.50/-0.75 x 95

I'm not sure about the size of your table, but I would have thought that sitting opposite someone at dinner would be a greater distance than that used for viewing a computer.

On paper, I would have thought that she would see you as slightly blurred, but she obviously feels that she can see well enough, or she wouldn't keep taking off her glasses.

And no, since her near add will probably increase a little yet to +2.50 or maybe even +3.00, depending on how close she likes to read, I wouldn't have thought that she would become more reliant on glasses again.

I hope that this will help. Having only a small amount of long-sighted astigmatism myself, I have no idea how well someone with myopia and astigmatism sees.

Take care

Lou


Austin 20 Jan 2018, 04:41

Thanks for the info Lou. She does wear multi focals. So how well does she see? Am I blurred to her when she sits opposite me at dinner? Is she likely to become reliant on glasses again?


Lou 19 Jan 2018, 03:34

Hi Austin

I believe that the explanation is her age and near add of +2.00. My husband is 59, so not that different in age to your wife, and also has a near add of +2.00. Owing to his age, he also needs an intermediate addition, and his is +1.25. If your wife had an intermediate addition on her prescription, it would likely be much the same as that of my husband. Since he is a lot more near sighted than your wife, he wears varifocals all the time, taking them off only to read. I'm not sure whether your wife has varifocals, but if she has separate or only distance glasses, since her near prescription cancels out a lot of her distance prescription, she probably finds that she can see better without them near and intermediate, which is why she only puts them on to watch telly in the house. Even if your wife wears varifocals, maybe she finds that she can see almost as well without them within the relatively close distances within the house, so doesn't bother to wear them.

My father in law whose near sighted distance prescription is a lot lower than my husband's and only has distance glasses, has started taking his glasses off in the house over recent years, just wearing them for driving and when out and about. I believe it for the reasons which I suggest above.

I hope that this will help

Best wishes

Lou


Austin 19 Jan 2018, 03:02

My wife, aged 62 has worn glasses for over 40 years until about a year ago. Since then she rarely wears them inside unless watching tv. Out side and when driving she wears sunglasses other than at night when she reverts to glasses. She also rarely wears them at restaurants and when eating meals. Her current script is -2.25 / -1.00 x 100 and an add of 2.00 and -2.75 / -0.75 x 95 with an add of 2.00. She started taking her glasses off to read and then extended the time without them to the point today where she rarely wears them. Is this usual? How well does she see without them? Any thoughts as to how to convince her to return to wearing them? She does squint on occasions but surprisingly not very often.


Cactus Jack 26 Sep 2017, 21:35

Tobias,

Vision occurs in the brain. The eyes are merely biological cameras. The brain has amazing ability to generate images with poor input, IF it know what something is supposed to look line. In fact it can generate images with NO input at all. Ever had a dream?

Everyone is different. Some people are better at functioning without vision correction than others. You have no way of knowing what your gf perceives without her glasses. A description of her prescription as being in the -6 range is not very helpful. She could have significant astigmatism that makes her vision worse than yours without any astigmatism, we just don't have enough information to make a reasonable judgement.

Do you know how to check a lens for a Cylinder component?

If there is no astigmatism involved in her glasses, her ability to function could be related to the visual environment. If you are in a familiar environment and she is not very familiar with that environment, functioning without vision correction could be a big part of the problem.

C.


Weirdeyes 26 Sep 2017, 16:50

Tobias

I'm not myopic, but I definitely notice a lot of variation between how people describe their vision vs their prescription. My prescription is R +1.00, -0.75 L +4.25, -1.50. I've noticed a lot of people with a similar prescription to me describe themselves as blind without glasses. A lot of them don't even have astigmatism. I don't think I'm blind without glasses. Especially because my right eye prescription is so mild. I don't have the best depth perception, but I have no trouble showering and doing regular everyday tasks without glasses. I think my brain has adapted pretty well to my lack of depth perception, so I don't bump into stuff or have trouble grabbing stuff. My vision does get pretty wonky if I go without glasses for too long, so I do wear them most of the time.


Tobias 26 Sep 2017, 13:52

I am 35 yo male wearing R -8.5 L -8.25 glasses (no astigmatism). Since I am the only one in my family and my circle of friends with strong-ish myopia, I was really surprised to learn that my new gf (with rx in -6 range) literally cannot function without her glasses at all, while I can put them on in the morning only to check my facebook account (rather uncomfortable to look at my phone from 5cm) and than obviously to leave the apartment. How come she needs her glasses more than I do?


glassesforeveryone 21 Jul 2017, 18:44

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Soundmanpt 21 Jul 2017, 13:27

sylvestria

Sadly you're a bad position because your agent is from the "old school of thought about glasses" it used to be that if being a model or an actress you either wore contacts or you struggled without your glasses. But glasses have become much more popular now for models as well as actresses to wear modeling and on screen. You need to sit down with your agent and tell him that you really can't function very well without glasses anymore. It sounds like it would be unsafe for you to do any type of runway modeling if you're unable to see you could fall off the runway and get badly injured. Have him try and get you modeling jobs with eyeglass companies if possible. That way you could even get your own glasses and be borrowing glasses from a friend anymore. But even modeling other things such as clothes wearing glasses should be accepted by many companies these days.


sylvestria 21 Jul 2017, 12:34

I had many problems with me eyes. I do not see good and I borrow friends glasses many times. For me its good but she cannot see at the moment in time. over much time me eyes get very bad. her glasses become less helpful me. I do work as model and agent say he prefer I no glasses on set. I try for contacts but say me eyes dry and cannot. I sneak and get glasses because world much blurry. Cannot recognize people. Me eyes see things not real. I get close to see but things not what I think. I wear glasses private, but no public. Me eyes feel better much but glasses heavy so when shoot, I cannot. So I do not bring. I function but people far I cannot. agent thinks me eyes pretty and say glasses ruin sexy image. I want to post here because I want convince that wear glasses during shoot. Some shoots very bad because studio blurry. Camera see I cannot well. I think me eyes look lost in photos but agent believe it is a good look. agent tell me stop squinting hard. I do not want to lose because good agent. But is always blurry. Sorry me English not so good. Maybe good? I think you English judge me better. Seek ideas or should I stay blurry with glasses not.


 02 Jul 2017, 03:22

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Apple77 25 Jun 2017, 18:46

Here's a rather elaborate blog about going without glasses:

https://ladyagda.wordpress.com/category/going-without-glasses/


Bensmith 16 Jun 2017, 06:04

An interesting little discussion about going without glasses with high myopia:

http://www.quora.com/What-is-it-like-to-live-with-high-myopia-more-than-6-00-degrees-without-glasses#!n=12

I personally do not know anyone anymore who would wear their glasses/contacts only part of the time. A while ago my girlfriend encountered a friend of hers in a fitness class and said that the friend didn't say hello "even though we were like next to each other". My girlfriend thought that maybe it was because her friend wasn't wearing her glasses. I wonder how blurry the instructor must have been if she couldn't recognize people even six feet away.

So I guess it happens, some people choose to go bareeyed in some circumstances.


NNVisitor 17 Apr 2017, 13:36

T

Miracles do happen. Your mother is a very lucky person. While my prescription is -10 I have quite a bit of astigmatism as well and I can tell you how headlights looked to me at night without my contacts or glasses. Both streetlights and vehicle headlights appeared as huge kaleidascope fragments. Things were incredibly blurred worse than it would be during the day.


GreginColo 17 Apr 2017, 12:14

T; you mentioned you can't imagine what you mother's uncorrected vision might be like. If you are curious, you can gain an approximation of that by being bare-eyed yourself and then adding some drugstore reading glasses in the highest Rx you can get, usually +3 or slightly higher. That would give you a rough approximation about how your

Mom might see without correction. Again, best wishes for a good recovery for her and thanks for sharing her story and what can happen if someone unpredictably and suddenly is without their glasses, especially with higher Rxs.


T 17 Apr 2017, 01:52

Thanks GreginColo, that's nice of you to say. She is fine, only a bit bruised up. I'm around -7 last time I checked, mum is -11.75 on her contacts. I feel blind as a bat with my vision and I don't think I'd feel safe crossing a street without visual aids. I can't even imagine what she sees at that level of nearsightedness.

She normally wears contact lenses and can't help but think that this could've been avoided had she worn them instead of her glasses.


GreginColo 16 Apr 2017, 19:35

T: thanks for sharing the story about your Mom; hopefully she is doing ok, physically and emotionally. Its good she had her friend there to help guide her to safety. It amazing how life can change in a split second, but hopefully this will soon be just a bad memory for her, but also a lesson to the rest of us, that its difficult to imagine what and how others are seeing, or not seeing, feeling, hearing, etc. Thanks for this post as a reminder. If you don;t mind me asking, what is your own Rx in relation to hers?


T 16 Apr 2017, 09:49

This thread reminded me of what happened to my mother.

A few weeks ago, my mother was driving at night and got T-boned crossing an intersection- her car spun and ended up facing on coming traffic. In the crash, her glasses flew off her face. She needed to get out of the car quickly to avoid being struck head on by the traffic but there was no way she could safely cross the road because she couldn't see the cars that were coming towards her (she said she could see the headlights but couldn't see enough to make a judgment on how far away they were/how fast they were approaching. Luckily her friend was there with her and found her glasses (turns out they were broken to the point they were unwearable) who helped her cross the road safely.

I wear glasses too although my eyes are not as bad as her so I can imagine what she went through. If she was alone, she would be in real trouble. I don't think people without nearsightedness like ours realise how difficult and scary it can be to live with it!


Soundmanpt 31 Mar 2017, 09:35

Jenny

I'm surprised that you never asked her why she enjoyed wearing your glasses so much? I think she clearly must have liked the way your glasses felt to wear. And she probably liked how she looked wearing your glasses. When she first put your glasses on things were probably blurry but after she had the on for a little while her eyes adjusted to them and she would have been able to see nearly perfect with them on. It's possible since she was apparently a good friend to you that was her way of telling you that you're wearing glasses wasn't a big deal.


Jenny 30 Mar 2017, 18:48

Nah, even 6 years later her eyes are good. I think she did like the way they looked on her though, or maybe she thought everything looked trippy or something. My eyesight has always been pretty bad, but not to the extent where I felt completely helpless. I never really thought anything weird about it. Honestly I was always flattered that she liked them so much.

My sister's eyesight is much worse than mine though. I remember one time she had to call me into her room because she lost her glasses and couldn't see them (they were on her dresser right in front of her).


antonio 27 Mar 2017, 11:42

Interesting story, Jenny, how strong Were your glasses that time, do you remember, in high school?

Best regards , antonio


Soundmanpt 27 Mar 2017, 08:54

Jenny

That seems to be a big thing between girls. In most cases the friend likes how you look wearing glasses and she is curious how she looks wearing your glasses. But your friend Lisa was clearly far more fascinated with your glasses than you would expect. Do you think she possibly found that she was able to see better with your glasses? If your glasses weren't very strong that could very well have been why she didn't want to return them. If you had any older glasses that was of no use to you anymore you could have given them to her. I have a feeling she would have gladly accepted. I have seen several cases where a friend will often wear her friends glasses when they are out together.


Jenny 27 Mar 2017, 01:59

We've all had that one friend who always needs to try on our glasses. For me that was my friend Lisa. I love the girl, but when we were in high school she always wanted to wear my glasses when we'd hang out. I remember one time I was at a sleepover party with her and a few other friends. She wanted to try on my glasses for a selfie and then literally would not give them back to me until the next day. Even wen we all went to bed she took them off and put them next to the table as if the were her glasses! The next day she put them on (once again as if they were hers) but then gave them back about an hour later. I honestly didn't mind too much, but still I sometimes had to remind her that I kind of need those to see.


varifocals 06 Jan 2017, 06:37

Thanks KL. It must have been difficult on stage with no glasses. In the past it was quite a problem. The opera singer Maria Callas was very short sighted & the comedian Harry Seacombe & they groped round in a blur in the pre contact days.


varifocals 06 Jan 2017, 06:37

Thanks KL. It must have been difficult on stage with no glasses. In the past it was quite a problem. The opera singer Maria Callas was very short sighted & the comedian Harry Seacombe & they groped round in a blur in the pre contact days.


varifocals 06 Jan 2017, 06:37

Thanks KL. It must have been difficult on stage with no glasses. In the past it was quite a problem. The opera singer Maria Callas was very short sighted & the comedian Harry Seacombe & they groped round in a blur in the pre contact days.


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