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gerry 16 Feb 2017, 07:15
I hope this lady reads this. I was in touch with a lady from sheffield who work in social care for the elderly. She had very strong thick minus glasses, had a lovely face and beautiful hair. we lost touch i hope we can reconnect, in my eyes she was so attractive and beautiful. I think of you often please get in firstname.lastname@example.orgLook forward in anticipation to your reply. Hugs XX
iStruggles 05 Feb 2017, 22:48
I prefer a lady who does not her glasses. The struggle, the squinting, the trouble that nearsighted women experience when they live their life in a blur is highly erotic to me. Glasses
When you boil it down, eyescene is a collection of links to be used by glasses fetishists for private sexual stimulation and masturbation. That is what makes it difficult to sift through the fodder and find women without glasses. I think the use of the word girls sounds too grade school and too pedophiliac for me.
05 Feb 2017, 19:27
Pretty sure he said "I too am turned on" rather than "I am too turned on."
Dude With A Fetish 04 Feb 2017, 07:48
Not sure why post was deleted, but not sure I understand meaning of too turned on. I thought that was the point?
Dude With A Fetish 31 Jan 2017, 17:06
I guess I'm unsure of how one can be "too turned on"... as in cant perform/last very long when presented with a situation like that? I am also a fan of wearing others thick glasses. I mean, I thought the point was partially to excite yourself (or knowing that you will become excited)? I get fairly excited as well but have always found a way to keep it in control until needed
Not throwing anyone under the bus and no malicious intent, just trying to understand
rafa 31 Jan 2017, 09:20
I think glasses reenhance beauty in a big way. Glasses can turn an average/ordinary looking girl into someone interesting, even fascinating. And they can turn pretty women into gorgeous women. It may not be real, as it's only a prop. But for a moment, while they're wearing their glasses, it SEEMS real.
But of course, it's not just the frames (and that's why plano lenses don't do it for me), it's the lenses too. They add something, a mystery, a depth.
In my case, it took some time to get into really thick lenses and appreciate their beauty. Now I love them, anywhere between -7 and -25 makes me melt. And I agree that there is a certain element of vulnerability in very thick lenses that can be alluring.
I coincide with Maxim that I too get turned on when I wear glasses that are someone else's prescription, and I wonder what the psychology behind that is. Perhaps the fact that one seems to borrow someone else's eyes and therefore turn into someone new? Watching a distorted world that one can complete with one's imagination?
gerry 31 Jan 2017, 07:14
HI Di, I do love ladies with thick glasses, but i also like a lady to be be respected and loved for who she his. First introduction only last 30 seconds, after which its the personality that matters. No matter how someone looks you can always see beauty. Meeting someone and growing together in love is far more important than attractiveness. Hope you soon find a nice guy take good care. Bye
Astra 30 Jan 2017, 21:47
It depends how you use the glasses, perhaps relevant to your personality. If your personality is more authoritative then you probably would appear more focused on your glasses. If your personality is less authoritative , then you probably do not mind to "look weak" and tend to appear less focused. I still look somewhat "not focused" when wearing glasses , and my personality does not appear to be authoritative than average, I would rarely stare at others, socially rather shy. Whether I wear glasses does not change most of my personality, but would have some minor effect on some of my behavior.
Astra 30 Jan 2017, 21:27
I feel power rings is commonly perceived as "weakness" by ordinary people who typically dislike glasses
Dude With a Fetish 30 Jan 2017, 20:17
My threshold for thickness is somewhere between -7 and -9... I love seeing the power rings as we lean in to kiss and as I look up at her and she at me as we do "other" things...
Maxim 29 Jan 2017, 16:40
I am not a feminist, but, would somebody of our estimated readers and contributors define a man (a male person) as "weak", when it is necessary for him to wear glasses?
I feel, there are many other criteria relevant for assigning 'strength' or 'weakness' to someone's personality, and the approach to glasses wearing has lit up from a certain middle age prejustice over the decades towards wide acceptance nowadays!
Soundmanpt 29 Jan 2017, 12:02
I don't share the opinion of "Tom" at all when he says "Bad eyesight, without glasses they cannot see well, are kind of vulnerable and are dependent on others". Just because she wears glasses doesn't mean she can't see. Things maybe out of focus or blurry without her glasses but in many cases she is still able to see well enough not to be vulnerable or dependent on others for help. Because she wears glasses doesn't make her "weak" only her eyesight maybe weak without her glasses. Because glasses have become so popular with many young ladies they are wearing their glasses more often even with a very weak prescription as a fashion accessory as well as providing them with perfect vision. I don't think any woman would ever have to "surrender herself to your power" just because she removes her glasses or allows you to remove them. Really? Actually I think many young ladies look more in power and authoritative if they are wearing glasses. There have even been polls done where it has been proven that a young lady wearing glasses is likely to be hired for a job than one not wearing glasses. Just as "Catwoman" said her less than perfect eyesight has not in anyway been a handicap in her being in charge at home as well as in her job. But I like you do appreciate seeing so many young ladies wearing glasses now. It seems an average looking young woman looks better if if she is wearing glasses and an already attractive young woman will look even more amazing if she is wearing glasses. For many women glasses really do enhance their looks.
Catwoman 29 Jan 2017, 10:11
You make a good point about women with glasses not being weak (except for our vision). I wear cateyes all the time, and I have been told that they give me an authoritative look, especially the ones that are dark at the top and clear at the bottom (currently 3 of my 7 frames). I like that look about me, as it definitely works on my husband, daughters, and subordinates at work. :)
Maxim 27 Jan 2017, 18:10
You are writing:
"The above is why we, glasses fetishists, are not at all attracted by girls with contacts: their weakness is less visible, they cannot whip off their lenses the same way a girl can ditch her specs, and you (as a lover) cannot remove her contacts.
... and I have quite a different experience ....
In the old times, when CLs were not as popular as nowadays, and when nobody literally had ever seen CLs, I dated a girl from the US, who had come to our town as an exchange student. She was wearing contacts, and I was so eager and impatient to try her lenses - the first time in my life, that I had met someone wearing CLs. As a proof of love and confidence she eventually gave in - and then she could not see properly, and eventually we experienced the greatest difficulties to get these lenses out of my eyes, it was a terrible afternoon for both of us, and a comedy for all the friends sitting around us. My sore red eyes needed three days to recover!
Maxim 27 Jan 2017, 17:58
I don't think, that GWGs are generally weak.
Many of them are very tough girls. And girls with greater vision defects are strong in their personality, they have to cope - and usually they have coped with a somewhat poorer vision, what many people regard as a shortcoming.
For me GWGs are strong personalities, and I respect them as such.
And I am convinced, that everyone giving a natural respect to our GWGs, will have a much better and balanced relation to them as those, who treat them as the 'poor & weak'.
Maxim 27 Jan 2017, 17:50
I just find them beautiful.
Sometimes, their frames are pieces of art, or pieces of simplicity and beauty, and these glasses add a further dimension of beauty to these girls.
You understand what I'm saying, when you see the same girl with different frames. A beautiful girl will always be a beautiful girl, but for me more beautiful with glasses than without.
But if you see a real beauty with nine different frames, and on one picture without a frame, you feel something missing.
The lenses can be part of this addition to beauty, myopic lenses can remind you of diamonds, hyperop lenses enlargen beautiful eyes etc.
Myself, I'm turned on by the feeling of glasses plus by the distortion (blurr) when wearing glasses that don't fit to my vision values.
I do like experiencing poor vision and its correction, producing blurr with contact lenses and compensating this with glasses (GOC). I do both, myop and hyperop, but not too strong (between +6.00 and -7.00, not more). I'm planing experiments with prisms.
Tom 27 Jan 2017, 16:45
To Rafa and SPQ
I spent many many hours the past years surfing the net and trying to find out more about glasses fetish (which I also have). There seems to be a common understanding between all "researches".
GWGs very explicitly show us (through their glasses) a weakness: bad eyesight. Without glasses they cannot see well, are kind of vulnerable and dependent on others. The exciting thing about dating a GWG is that, if she takes off her glasses herself she surrenders to your "power", or she gives you the right to (gently) remove her specs when you wish to do so.
The above is why we, glasses fetishists, are not at all attracted by girls with contacts: their weakness is less visible, they cannot whip off their lenses the same way a girl can ditch her specs, and you (as a lover) cannot remove her contacts.
I am excited by seeing a girl in glasses the same way as I am excited by a GWG not wearing her glasses, knowing she cannot see well there and now.
rafa 25 Jan 2017, 16:08
I too am interested in discussing the psychological aspect of our glasses fetish, but it's hard to find anything about it on the internet, let alone books. Have you read anything interesting about it? It is striking that being such a fairly common fetish, there is so little literature or research about it.
Astra 24 Jan 2017, 14:34
I thought glasses means nerdy or hardworking, or deviate from average girls. I was attracted to nerdy girls because they had top scores in class , I thought they are smarter than me at age 9 . Age 9 I also wanted to be as nerdy as those top scored girls and be one of the top scoring girl myself. I wanted to join their community
30calcat 23 Jan 2017, 20:35
I try not to over-analyze things. SPQ, you seem to be secure enough in the way you present yourself that you go after your own image even against the mainstream. In my experience, these sort of things can serve you well in the long run. Over time, you may start to notice that people (especially those close to you) feed off of your confidence and quit making a big deal out of wearing contacts or hiding their thick lenses, which can work to your advantage.
SPQ 23 Jan 2017, 16:40
Interesting stuff Soundman and calcat. I also am absolutely turned on by lenses thicker than the frames, but semi-rimless is by far my favorite type of frame; especially high prescriptions in semi-rimless which are just so thick and so visible (but so darn rare!) What's very surprising is that I'm not as into myodiscs; obviously I love the high myopia but I much prefer a thick non-myodisc lens, especially when the wearer needs a stronger prescription and is squinting and pushing their glasses up. That just makes me melt (straight college-age male, for the record).
Soundman: My lenses are actually 1.67; I can attach a picture if you're interested. The lenses are definitely the reason I chose semi-rimless, in a full frame w/decent index my lenses wouldn't even stick out. I'm quite busy in my daily life so I don't have time for GOC or anything like that, only passive admiration!
In general, I'm very interested in discussing the psychology aspect of our fetish and I feel like the sightings/nearsightings thread is kind of dying out/full of overblown/fake episodes -- which is a shame because that's one of my favorite threads. I'm definitely a bit self-conscious of my fetish and I would classify myself as fairly average/normal in other ways (not that it's bad to be different!), but I guess this is the site to spill the beans :))
30calcat 23 Jan 2017, 15:28
When I was growing up, nylon and drilled rimless styles were very rare. For me, any minus lenses that were thicker than the frame holding them seemed "thick" to me. When I see thick lenses, I stop looking at the frame and my attention is diverted instead to the unique ways the lens bulges out towards the edge. Then I would start to imagine what it would be like to wear the thick glasses, wondering what shape and how thick a ring of light would be cast around the field of vision, and how heavy they would feel sitting on my nose. My imaginations are realized now that I have progressed to -16.25 lenses that run the 17mm thick edges that the blanks probably started with. But I still dig myodiscs or anything over 10mm thick, as such a sighting is very rare.
Soundmanpt 23 Jan 2017, 09:31
I can only speak for myself, but if your glasses are -7.00 and semi-rimless, which just happens to a favorite style of glasses for me anyway, then I would say that your glasses would more than qualify as being "thick". I assume you enjoy showing how thick your lenses are by choosing that style of frame for your glasses. So your lenses are likely the regular 1.50 thickness as opposed to the thinner high index lenses available. Do you get many comments on your glasses?
SPQ 23 Jan 2017, 03:57
Just out of curiosity, what is your guys' threshold for "thick" glasses? At what edge thickness do glasses become thick?
I wear about -7 semi-rimless, and they're 5.5 mm or so thick on the edges. Just curious what level of thickness turns you on.
Dude with a Fetish 20 Jan 2017, 13:46
Not sure whether this is more for XXX links(eventhough it's just a story)
I'm turned on by wearing strong minus glasses in bed with women who also wear strong minus glasses. My ultimate fantasy is to sit in a jacuzzi with my fiancé who wears minus glasses while we watch a movie featuring a threesome with two women who wear glasses.
nnn 10 Oct 2016, 07:43
I am really turned on by girls with thick glasses. Generally, a prescription between -14D and -30D are really nice for me.
But the thing that makes me crazy is a girl with thick glass squinting her eyes. Imagine this scene, A girl wearing a pair of rimless glasses with -20D, which people can observe its thickness from side. She walked on the street, trying to see a sign far from her. She push her glasses tight against her face, then squint her eyes so hard and finally see the word on the sign. I will be so happy that she can see that cuz without that thick glass, she can not even see word that is 6cm away.
I dont think thick glasses is a burden to girls with bad eyesight. They are a gift. God gives them bad eyesight, they accepted it and can see the beauty of world with thick glasses and also have a wonderful life, this is amazing
Adam 02 Oct 2016, 13:38
I'm not turned on because of the glasses itself. I'm totally turned on because of bad eyesight. I really love girls with high minus glasses.
To tell the truth, glasses itself is not enough for me. I also need to see her squinting and being cross-eyed. In most cases these are together with bad eyesight. Crossed eyes doesn't have to mean lazy eye, it is better if both eyes are turning in or out. Eyes turning out are the best for me but I also like when they are turning in. The ideal girl has about -8 glasses, her eyes are a bit turning out and she is squinting even if she is wearing glasses.
Trent 11 Sep 2016, 11:37
Spectaphile - Definition "a person who is sexually attracted to people with glasses"
Likelenses 16 Aug 2016, 21:50
You sound like a wonderful woman ,with a lot to offer in a relationship.
Hang in there Babe!
Soundmanpt 16 Aug 2016, 11:52
I'm sorry that things didn't work out between you and that gentleman but i'm glad to hear that the breakup really had nothing to do with his fetish for your glasses. Like you said early on even though it came as a surprise to you when he admitted that he had a glasses fetish. Many women might have ended things right there but instead you just became more curious and interested about his fascination of women wearing strong glasses. That was how you ended up in here. After coming in here it seems that you have learned that there are more men than just the one that was attracted not only by you but by your glasses as well. I'm sure you never had any idea before this guy came along that anyone might be attracted you because of your need for glasses? Even though you weren't totally okay knowing about his fetish you must have still been somewhat flattered that he found you so attractive wearing glasses. I'm sure that once you trusted him you were okay with him removing your glasses at times and maybe even cleaning them for you if they had smudges on the lenses. And he must not have ever done anything with your glasses that might have scared you or you would never let him touch your glasses again. I am only guessing but it could be that your ex likes women wearing strong glasses because he knows without their glasses they are quite vulnerable because they can barely see anything. I'm sure that you have told both your daughters all about your ex and his glasses fetish. If I recall both your daughters wear glasses but much weaker than yours. But they both are likely to come across men that find them even more attractive because they are wearing glasses. It doesn't always have to be strong glasses like it was for you but even much weaker glasses can be appealing for many men out here. Only difference is that they probably won't admit it to your daughters, they will just have to find out for themselves. You seem to have a lot to offer a man and I think any man would be lucky to have a woman like you. Just make a point to stay out there and you will be found.
Di 16 Aug 2016, 09:47
Hi Colin. Oh it's not a problem that the relationship I was in didn't last. He's 45 and I'm 60, although most people think I look around 50. In fact I think he thought I was about that age until he found out I have a 38 year old daughter. We had different needs, I think he genuinely fancied me but my eyesight issues were definitely an added bonus, he was honest enough to admit it and I give him credit for that. I actually didn't mind the effect my glasses and especially my absolute need for them had on him. In fact, I'm quite broad minded and without getting too graphic I quite enjoyed using my short sightedness as a means to turn him on. I felt like I had a level control and power in that respect. However, a relationship has to be about more than just the sexual side and as people we weren't as compatible as I would have liked. It was me who ended it and I don't have any regrets.
I've been widowed for over 3 years now and for that time I've shared my house with my younger daughter but when she starts university in the next month or so, I'll be alone for the first time since my early 20's. I would like to find a partner to share my life with but I'm not desperate to take the next man who comes along. I'm a retired medical practitioner (yes I did get pregnant while still at medical school) so I'm at home a lot, although I do have a number of good friends and plenty of outside interests to keep me occupied. As I say I am broad minded and have a strong fascination for the human condition so I find it very interesting that my ex partner and seemingly many of you have an intense reaction to women with poor eyesight. I'm happy to discuss the subject on here if anyone would like to.
Colin 12 Aug 2016, 17:01
I have read your posts with great interest. I was sorry to hear your relationship didn't develop. I hope it hasn't clouded your view of us weird lot who find glasses sexually attractive. More weirdly I find my own strong glasses sexy but can't explain why. I don't know if you still want to know any more about our strange feelings but please do ask if you want to.
Mr Jules 11 Aug 2016, 09:49
Until I was 40, I had perfect vision and never wore glasses. So I was always curious about wearing glasses. I was appealed by the way they changed the appearance of a person's eyes. The idea of having to wear something on your face all day long. And being dependent on glasses. All interesting.
Presbyopia started when I was 40. It's steadily worsened and I now wear glasses full time. I am completely dependent on my glasses for close-up activities like reading and eating. And my distance vision needs correction, too. So I wear varifocals to correct all aspects of my vision.
I really like looking at something across the other side of the room, not being able to see properly and then putting on my glasses to see it clearly.
Glasses are now an integral feature of my face. I do not like my appearance without my glasses. And I like the fact that I can only see my reflection in a mirror properly with my glasses on.
And I'm still interested in other people wearing glasses. I like to observe what type of lenses they might have or how strong they are. Sometimes, I become so engrossed in someone else wearing glasses, that I forget that I wear glasses, too.
Di 04 Aug 2016, 08:17
No relationship for me I'm afraid. I'm young (at heart), free and single again. It didn't work out, he was much younger than me and lets just say we wanted different things. Fun while it lasted though.
Likelenses 31 Jul 2016, 19:08
Glad to see you post again.
How is the relationship going? Hope all is well.
Dinah (Di) 31 Jul 2016, 09:24
Just seen the post below was directed to me. To be honest I'm not really sure what your question is but I'm wondering if the glasses your girlfriend wore were perhaps after cataract surgery? I'm confused when you say her glasses looked like thick reading glasses but she was nearsighted.
My retinal detachment was as a result of my extreme short sight and longer than normal eyes not the other way round. However after I had surgery to reattach the retina my prescription in that eye did change by a couple of dioptres. I don't think contact lens wear can cause retina issues but I'm not an expert.
lazysiow 21 Jul 2016, 23:23
You actually seem to be the perfect person I want to ask about something somewhat unrelated and the timing of you coming here seems impeccable.
I recently had a pretty short relationship breakup but not over anything eyesight or glasses related. One thing I always wondered though is that even though she wore contacts mostly and technically she was nearsighted but her glasses were very thick even when hi-index that they resembled reading glasses. I did see some younger pictures of her it seemed like she was more of a -4 to -8 and was wondering if the prescription jumping to that high was a result of your retinal detachments. TBH even for someone like me on this site, those glasses did end up being a turnoff though I think I could have learned to enjoy them eventually. Was overuse of contacts a factor in the detachments?
gerry 21 Jul 2016, 05:44
HI Ladies, i,m a guy who admits i love high magnification glasses worn by a lady. I love to see the passion, emotion, and if dating love. I have only once dated such a lady, sadly we lost touch. She had a fab personality, was very genuine. One day i would hope to meet such a girl again for long term relationship.
So ladies it can be a very big plus wearing strong magnification glasses. But personality is also very important. contact. email@example.com
Tom 27 Jun 2016, 14:17
My wife bought those Prada frames in a deep purple colour 6 years ago, much to my delight, and surprise as she never opted for bold frames before. Last year she chose to not upgrade them for her latest prescription increase as she also had newer frames, but luckily she kept the Pradas. Two weeks ago we went to a party and she took them of their case again, cleaned the lenses diligently and put them on as she thought they fitted her clothes real well. I complimented her on the nice match with her black dress, and she looked real sexy in them all night as the weaker prescription made her squint each time she tried to focus on people/items at a larger distance.
There is a nice YouTube makeup tutorial around of a girl in those deep purple Pradas, will try to find them.
Soundmanpt 26 Jun 2016, 08:32
The idea of getting some business cards printed up indicating that you buy used specialty and designer glasses is really a great idea. It's also a great way to chat with the ladies wearing the glasses and even be able to get a look at them on the spot as well. If they ask why you want to buy their glasses you can tell them that you resell them or that your a collector. Even though glasses can be very expensive used glasses, even designer glasses have very little value. I'm not sure a PO box is a good idea because how would you be paying them? Most people aren't going to send off even old glasses to a PO box and not know if they will ever be compensated for their glasses. You probably will need to provide a phone number and then arrange a meeting point. Do you have any price in mind what you would be willing to pay for these used glasses? That is up to you but I think anything more than $25.00 would be too much. But even if they aren't interested in selling their old glasses it still gets you nice way to have a quick chat with them and the business card make things more on a professional level as well.
murky 25 Jun 2016, 23:08
Has anyone noticed those gorgeous black Prada frames, with the silver wisp and flower, with PRADA written along the side? They are the commonest frame, I think, and really appeal to young women, esp as the logo is so high value in the fashion world.
I would love a pair for my collection, before they go out of fashion, as they have been around for about 5 years.
Versace are doing some wonderful styles now too, big bold frames, thick arms, with the target logo.
I wonder if there is a market place for these, eBay does not seem to have many, any ideas?
I have fantasies about having a card to give to fashionable GWGs offering to buy their specs, when they finish with them, setting up a PO box to receive them.
Dinah 26 May 2016, 09:05
Thank you to those who replied to my post. It's certainly an interesting phenomenon and one that I didn't realise existed until recently. It seems to be a kind of obsession along with a sexual element and of course those two things are very powerful and extremely difficult to ignore. It also seems that some of you keep this thing under wraps and wouldn't feel comfortable telling anyone (least of all your partners) about it. I wouldn't call it being ashamed but there is definitely a fear of perhaps what others would think if you told them presumably because it is quite out of the norm. I guess I understand that and appreciate why you would want to keep it to yourself. This makes it all the more amazing that my boyfriend (it seems weird to refer to someone as my boyfriend at my age even though he is quite a bit younger than me) should talk about it openly so soon after meeting me. Maybe it's testament to the intimacy of our relationship that he felt comfortable in doing so within a few weeks of meeting me and therefore something I should welcome. I need to think more on this but wanted to reply so as not to appear to be ignoring you all.
I can answer a few of your questions though. I wrote my prescription down when I posted previously, it's over -20 in both eyes for my short sight with additions for intermediate and reading requiring me to wear varifocals. I have suffered two retinal tears/detachments over the years and as a result don't have perfect vision even wearing glasses. I haven't noticed any unusual behaviour from any man I've been with regarding my eyesight other than the usual interest. No taking my glasses off, trying them on, asking me how many fingers they are holding up or that kind of thing. Of course my glasses are obviously strong and so people sometimes ask my prescription or delve further and ask how poor my eyesight is, how I see things and so on but I think that's just natural curiosity. The only thing I could say that is perhaps unusual is that I've been asked to keep my glasses on during intimacy whereas all my life I've just automatically taken them off and placed them somewhere safe before getting intimate.
GOCer 25 May 2016, 14:30
One thing rafa says that I would like to echo is that we "can’t help glancing on the streets at women who wear glasses." In a nutshell, I finally acknowledged that the force of glasses that sweeps me up is one that must be reckoned with. After some failed dating experiences, I finally made myself a promise to marry someone who wears strong glasses. It would simply not be fair to make a marriage vow to a lady, knowing that I would be looking at all these other women who wore stronger glasses. Dinah, if your partner has similar experiences, I wish you all a happy relationship and companionship that can be matched by no other.
25 May 2016, 11:11
Dina- How strong are your glasses? Do you wear them all the time? Has he asked to try them or have you offered? Can he see through them? My other would let me try hers, but now I don't bother because they became way to strong for me to see anything...but I love them on her.
rafa 25 May 2016, 10:39
I think it’s great that you’ve visited the site and posted asking for insight about your partner’s “thing” for glasses. That shows courage.
I can only speak for myself (and I’ve only been aware of this site very recently) but I’m really glad that you did. Because it gives us the opportunity to tell you those things that a lot of us would like to tell our wives or girlfriends and can’t brave to. It can be a very lonely place where we sometimes find ourselves.
First of all, we don’t know why we have this “thing” with glasses or where it comes from. In my case I’m pretty sure it’s not genetic or inherited from any of my parents. One day in our puberty we find ourselves “swept” by it. And that is disconcerting. The first reaction is to think that we are some kind of weirdoes, since we don’t get aroused like most guys do (by watching porn) but by watching glasses on a pretty woman’s face. And then you find a way of living with it, hoping to find someone who would understand you or even share that same “thing” for glasses. Some people try to hide it and keep it in check, some others try to act it out and incorporated to their daily lives with all normality.
Again, I can only speak for myself, but yes, the glasses are a bonus. We don’t fall in love with shortsightedness. We fall in love with a person. But the combination of that person and (dare I say, the right) glasses can really turn us on. We look for women who wear glasses because we feel that possibly our sex life will be more fulfilling, but you don’t get to choose who you fall in love with, and I’m sure that a lot of us have experienced falling in love with women with perfect eyesight or even women who dislike glasses. But what is pretty obvious is the fact that even we get attracted by a gorgeous woman with some really cool glasses, if the person isn’t someone who is on your wavelength, then the relationship will not hold water. We too are attracted to intelligence, sense of humor and all the traits that “normal” people are attracted to. Shortsightedness (or any other visual imperfection) is just another trait we look for in our love life partners, like some people look for certain political ideas or a certain musical taste. We look for someone who can share and understand our passion for glasses. It might seem something superficial, of course it hasn’t got the same importance as politics or music or art. And we know it. We can put it in its proper place. I mean, I wouldn’t be able to be in a relationship with someone who votes for an extreme right party or someone who likes Justin Bieber, but I could be in a relationship with someone who never wears glasses.
And I’m pretty sure that the reason we are attracted to (very) shortsighted women is not because that shows some vulnerability or dependence on “the man”, because we too like being (very) shortsighted ourselves. Don’t ask me why, but we do. I myself have asked a couple of therapists about it, and none of them came up with a convincing explanation.
My basic point is that our “thing” with glasses isn’t an overriding thing and it SHOULDN’T be a problem at all in your relationship with him. Why would it? If, say, he wants/needs you to keep your glasses on while having sex, why not do it? Why would that be a problem?
And from his point of view, I can’t tell you how great it would be for him if you could incorporate his “thing” with glasses into your daily life with normality. It would really make him very happy.
The only thing you might have to “put up with” is that you may find that he can’t help glancing on the streets at women who wear glasses, although nowadays there are so many, that we tend to get more selective, and only glance at those who are attractive and wear the right glasses (we tend to avoid those with fake lenses). But that would only be a minor quibble, wouldn’t it?
Anyway, I wish you the best with him, and would love to hear back from you in the future .
Soundmanpt 24 May 2016, 12:07
I do recall your earlier comments about this gentleman and your relationship. First of all I am really glad to hear that your still together. I was hoping that admission about his glasses fetish didn't ruin the relationship when so many other things seemed so perfect to you about him. I'm sure his thing for glasses must seem very strange you when you probably wished you didn't even need them at all. But to your credit even though this seemed strange to you, you didn't run the other direction from him. Look at it this way he could have had a much worse fetish than "glasses". Is there anything he says or does that troubles you about his thing for glasses? I guess what I am asking is if there is anything or time when he makes you feel uncomfortable about your glasses? You have to appreciate his being so honest and telling you about his obsession for glasses. Like you say you want your relationship to be an honest one that is being pretty honest. I think you will read in here about several men that not only have girlfriends that wear glasses that they have never told about there obsession for glasses but even several married en that they have never told their wife about their thing for their glasses. You seem completely happy with this fellow so I say you should just go for it and not let his glasses thing bother you. Hope that helped in some way. To be honest I dated a good number of women back in my dating days and nearly everyone of them wore glasses but I never once told any of them about my glasses fetish.
Dinah 24 May 2016, 11:29
Hi. I wrote a while back about a lovely man I had recently embarked on a relationship with who had admitted one evening that he had a "thing" for women in glasses. My husband died 3 years ago and I've been lonely and in a very dark place for much of the intervening time and so I was delighted to meet someone who seemed to be very much on my wavelength and who I hit it off with almost immediately. I was therefore a little taken aback by his admission and of course wondered if the fact that I wore glasses was the main reason he was interested in me. We're still together and we have discussed this attraction of his a few times and while I don't understand it, I do feel he likes (dare I say it loves?) me for who I am and that my eyesight is a bonus for him. It hasn't really played a major part in our relationship to be honest, I haven't really noticed him behaving differently towards me than other men I've known and we do have a wonderful time together. Anyway I will stop rambling on and get to the point. He has said that he has visited this site on occasions and he suggested that it might help me understand the attraction for short sighted women if I wrote about it on here and asked regular contributors for their take. So really I was just wondering if anyone can help me understand a little better. Your point of view would be very much appreciated.
Likelenses 08 May 2016, 22:06
As you stated it is important that myopes read at the proper distance.
You should not read printed material any closer than twelve inches,and not closer than twenty inches from a computer screen.
If you cam maintain these distances comfortably with the weaker prescription,but not with your distance prescription, then you need bifocals.
Astra 08 May 2016, 06:17
it is my un-informed habit to read with a lower rx .
i don't think i would like to have bifocal as of now , partly because i am not certain whether i need a close rx. i don't seem to have discomfort using my distance rx.