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nnn 10 Oct 2016, 07:43
I am really turned on by girls with thick glasses. Generally, a prescription between -14D and -30D are really nice for me.
But the thing that makes me crazy is a girl with thick glass squinting her eyes. Imagine this scene, A girl wearing a pair of rimless glasses with -20D, which people can observe its thickness from side. She walked on the street, trying to see a sign far from her. She push her glasses tight against her face, then squint her eyes so hard and finally see the word on the sign. I will be so happy that she can see that cuz without that thick glass, she can not even see word that is 6cm away.
I dont think thick glasses is a burden to girls with bad eyesight. They are a gift. God gives them bad eyesight, they accepted it and can see the beauty of world with thick glasses and also have a wonderful life, this is amazing
Adam 02 Oct 2016, 13:38
I'm not turned on because of the glasses itself. I'm totally turned on because of bad eyesight. I really love girls with high minus glasses.
To tell the truth, glasses itself is not enough for me. I also need to see her squinting and being cross-eyed. In most cases these are together with bad eyesight. Crossed eyes doesn't have to mean lazy eye, it is better if both eyes are turning in or out. Eyes turning out are the best for me but I also like when they are turning in. The ideal girl has about -8 glasses, her eyes are a bit turning out and she is squinting even if she is wearing glasses.
Trent 11 Sep 2016, 11:37
Spectaphile - Definition "a person who is sexually attracted to people with glasses"
Likelenses 16 Aug 2016, 21:50
You sound like a wonderful woman ,with a lot to offer in a relationship.
Hang in there Babe!
Soundmanpt 16 Aug 2016, 11:52
I'm sorry that things didn't work out between you and that gentleman but i'm glad to hear that the breakup really had nothing to do with his fetish for your glasses. Like you said early on even though it came as a surprise to you when he admitted that he had a glasses fetish. Many women might have ended things right there but instead you just became more curious and interested about his fascination of women wearing strong glasses. That was how you ended up in here. After coming in here it seems that you have learned that there are more men than just the one that was attracted not only by you but by your glasses as well. I'm sure you never had any idea before this guy came along that anyone might be attracted you because of your need for glasses? Even though you weren't totally okay knowing about his fetish you must have still been somewhat flattered that he found you so attractive wearing glasses. I'm sure that once you trusted him you were okay with him removing your glasses at times and maybe even cleaning them for you if they had smudges on the lenses. And he must not have ever done anything with your glasses that might have scared you or you would never let him touch your glasses again. I am only guessing but it could be that your ex likes women wearing strong glasses because he knows without their glasses they are quite vulnerable because they can barely see anything. I'm sure that you have told both your daughters all about your ex and his glasses fetish. If I recall both your daughters wear glasses but much weaker than yours. But they both are likely to come across men that find them even more attractive because they are wearing glasses. It doesn't always have to be strong glasses like it was for you but even much weaker glasses can be appealing for many men out here. Only difference is that they probably won't admit it to your daughters, they will just have to find out for themselves. You seem to have a lot to offer a man and I think any man would be lucky to have a woman like you. Just make a point to stay out there and you will be found.
Di 16 Aug 2016, 09:47
Hi Colin. Oh it's not a problem that the relationship I was in didn't last. He's 45 and I'm 60, although most people think I look around 50. In fact I think he thought I was about that age until he found out I have a 38 year old daughter. We had different needs, I think he genuinely fancied me but my eyesight issues were definitely an added bonus, he was honest enough to admit it and I give him credit for that. I actually didn't mind the effect my glasses and especially my absolute need for them had on him. In fact, I'm quite broad minded and without getting too graphic I quite enjoyed using my short sightedness as a means to turn him on. I felt like I had a level control and power in that respect. However, a relationship has to be about more than just the sexual side and as people we weren't as compatible as I would have liked. It was me who ended it and I don't have any regrets.
I've been widowed for over 3 years now and for that time I've shared my house with my younger daughter but when she starts university in the next month or so, I'll be alone for the first time since my early 20's. I would like to find a partner to share my life with but I'm not desperate to take the next man who comes along. I'm a retired medical practitioner (yes I did get pregnant while still at medical school) so I'm at home a lot, although I do have a number of good friends and plenty of outside interests to keep me occupied. As I say I am broad minded and have a strong fascination for the human condition so I find it very interesting that my ex partner and seemingly many of you have an intense reaction to women with poor eyesight. I'm happy to discuss the subject on here if anyone would like to.
Colin 12 Aug 2016, 17:01
I have read your posts with great interest. I was sorry to hear your relationship didn't develop. I hope it hasn't clouded your view of us weird lot who find glasses sexually attractive. More weirdly I find my own strong glasses sexy but can't explain why. I don't know if you still want to know any more about our strange feelings but please do ask if you want to.
Mr Jules 11 Aug 2016, 09:49
Until I was 40, I had perfect vision and never wore glasses. So I was always curious about wearing glasses. I was appealed by the way they changed the appearance of a person's eyes. The idea of having to wear something on your face all day long. And being dependent on glasses. All interesting.
Presbyopia started when I was 40. It's steadily worsened and I now wear glasses full time. I am completely dependent on my glasses for close-up activities like reading and eating. And my distance vision needs correction, too. So I wear varifocals to correct all aspects of my vision.
I really like looking at something across the other side of the room, not being able to see properly and then putting on my glasses to see it clearly.
Glasses are now an integral feature of my face. I do not like my appearance without my glasses. And I like the fact that I can only see my reflection in a mirror properly with my glasses on.
And I'm still interested in other people wearing glasses. I like to observe what type of lenses they might have or how strong they are. Sometimes, I become so engrossed in someone else wearing glasses, that I forget that I wear glasses, too.
Di 04 Aug 2016, 08:17
No relationship for me I'm afraid. I'm young (at heart), free and single again. It didn't work out, he was much younger than me and lets just say we wanted different things. Fun while it lasted though.
Likelenses 31 Jul 2016, 19:08
Glad to see you post again.
How is the relationship going? Hope all is well.
Dinah (Di) 31 Jul 2016, 09:24
Just seen the post below was directed to me. To be honest I'm not really sure what your question is but I'm wondering if the glasses your girlfriend wore were perhaps after cataract surgery? I'm confused when you say her glasses looked like thick reading glasses but she was nearsighted.
My retinal detachment was as a result of my extreme short sight and longer than normal eyes not the other way round. However after I had surgery to reattach the retina my prescription in that eye did change by a couple of dioptres. I don't think contact lens wear can cause retina issues but I'm not an expert.
lazysiow 21 Jul 2016, 23:23
You actually seem to be the perfect person I want to ask about something somewhat unrelated and the timing of you coming here seems impeccable.
I recently had a pretty short relationship breakup but not over anything eyesight or glasses related. One thing I always wondered though is that even though she wore contacts mostly and technically she was nearsighted but her glasses were very thick even when hi-index that they resembled reading glasses. I did see some younger pictures of her it seemed like she was more of a -4 to -8 and was wondering if the prescription jumping to that high was a result of your retinal detachments. TBH even for someone like me on this site, those glasses did end up being a turnoff though I think I could have learned to enjoy them eventually. Was overuse of contacts a factor in the detachments?
gerry 21 Jul 2016, 05:44
HI Ladies, i,m a guy who admits i love high magnification glasses worn by a lady. I love to see the passion, emotion, and if dating love. I have only once dated such a lady, sadly we lost touch. She had a fab personality, was very genuine. One day i would hope to meet such a girl again for long term relationship.
So ladies it can be a very big plus wearing strong magnification glasses. But personality is also very important. contact. firstname.lastname@example.org
Tom 27 Jun 2016, 14:17
My wife bought those Prada frames in a deep purple colour 6 years ago, much to my delight, and surprise as she never opted for bold frames before. Last year she chose to not upgrade them for her latest prescription increase as she also had newer frames, but luckily she kept the Pradas. Two weeks ago we went to a party and she took them of their case again, cleaned the lenses diligently and put them on as she thought they fitted her clothes real well. I complimented her on the nice match with her black dress, and she looked real sexy in them all night as the weaker prescription made her squint each time she tried to focus on people/items at a larger distance.
There is a nice YouTube makeup tutorial around of a girl in those deep purple Pradas, will try to find them.
Soundmanpt 26 Jun 2016, 08:32
The idea of getting some business cards printed up indicating that you buy used specialty and designer glasses is really a great idea. It's also a great way to chat with the ladies wearing the glasses and even be able to get a look at them on the spot as well. If they ask why you want to buy their glasses you can tell them that you resell them or that your a collector. Even though glasses can be very expensive used glasses, even designer glasses have very little value. I'm not sure a PO box is a good idea because how would you be paying them? Most people aren't going to send off even old glasses to a PO box and not know if they will ever be compensated for their glasses. You probably will need to provide a phone number and then arrange a meeting point. Do you have any price in mind what you would be willing to pay for these used glasses? That is up to you but I think anything more than $25.00 would be too much. But even if they aren't interested in selling their old glasses it still gets you nice way to have a quick chat with them and the business card make things more on a professional level as well.
murky 25 Jun 2016, 23:08
Has anyone noticed those gorgeous black Prada frames, with the silver wisp and flower, with PRADA written along the side? They are the commonest frame, I think, and really appeal to young women, esp as the logo is so high value in the fashion world.
I would love a pair for my collection, before they go out of fashion, as they have been around for about 5 years.
Versace are doing some wonderful styles now too, big bold frames, thick arms, with the target logo.
I wonder if there is a market place for these, eBay does not seem to have many, any ideas?
I have fantasies about having a card to give to fashionable GWGs offering to buy their specs, when they finish with them, setting up a PO box to receive them.
Dinah 26 May 2016, 09:05
Thank you to those who replied to my post. It's certainly an interesting phenomenon and one that I didn't realise existed until recently. It seems to be a kind of obsession along with a sexual element and of course those two things are very powerful and extremely difficult to ignore. It also seems that some of you keep this thing under wraps and wouldn't feel comfortable telling anyone (least of all your partners) about it. I wouldn't call it being ashamed but there is definitely a fear of perhaps what others would think if you told them presumably because it is quite out of the norm. I guess I understand that and appreciate why you would want to keep it to yourself. This makes it all the more amazing that my boyfriend (it seems weird to refer to someone as my boyfriend at my age even though he is quite a bit younger than me) should talk about it openly so soon after meeting me. Maybe it's testament to the intimacy of our relationship that he felt comfortable in doing so within a few weeks of meeting me and therefore something I should welcome. I need to think more on this but wanted to reply so as not to appear to be ignoring you all.
I can answer a few of your questions though. I wrote my prescription down when I posted previously, it's over -20 in both eyes for my short sight with additions for intermediate and reading requiring me to wear varifocals. I have suffered two retinal tears/detachments over the years and as a result don't have perfect vision even wearing glasses. I haven't noticed any unusual behaviour from any man I've been with regarding my eyesight other than the usual interest. No taking my glasses off, trying them on, asking me how many fingers they are holding up or that kind of thing. Of course my glasses are obviously strong and so people sometimes ask my prescription or delve further and ask how poor my eyesight is, how I see things and so on but I think that's just natural curiosity. The only thing I could say that is perhaps unusual is that I've been asked to keep my glasses on during intimacy whereas all my life I've just automatically taken them off and placed them somewhere safe before getting intimate.
GOCer 25 May 2016, 14:30
One thing rafa says that I would like to echo is that we "can’t help glancing on the streets at women who wear glasses." In a nutshell, I finally acknowledged that the force of glasses that sweeps me up is one that must be reckoned with. After some failed dating experiences, I finally made myself a promise to marry someone who wears strong glasses. It would simply not be fair to make a marriage vow to a lady, knowing that I would be looking at all these other women who wore stronger glasses. Dinah, if your partner has similar experiences, I wish you all a happy relationship and companionship that can be matched by no other.
25 May 2016, 11:11
Dina- How strong are your glasses? Do you wear them all the time? Has he asked to try them or have you offered? Can he see through them? My other would let me try hers, but now I don't bother because they became way to strong for me to see anything...but I love them on her.
rafa 25 May 2016, 10:39
I think it’s great that you’ve visited the site and posted asking for insight about your partner’s “thing” for glasses. That shows courage.
I can only speak for myself (and I’ve only been aware of this site very recently) but I’m really glad that you did. Because it gives us the opportunity to tell you those things that a lot of us would like to tell our wives or girlfriends and can’t brave to. It can be a very lonely place where we sometimes find ourselves.
First of all, we don’t know why we have this “thing” with glasses or where it comes from. In my case I’m pretty sure it’s not genetic or inherited from any of my parents. One day in our puberty we find ourselves “swept” by it. And that is disconcerting. The first reaction is to think that we are some kind of weirdoes, since we don’t get aroused like most guys do (by watching porn) but by watching glasses on a pretty woman’s face. And then you find a way of living with it, hoping to find someone who would understand you or even share that same “thing” for glasses. Some people try to hide it and keep it in check, some others try to act it out and incorporated to their daily lives with all normality.
Again, I can only speak for myself, but yes, the glasses are a bonus. We don’t fall in love with shortsightedness. We fall in love with a person. But the combination of that person and (dare I say, the right) glasses can really turn us on. We look for women who wear glasses because we feel that possibly our sex life will be more fulfilling, but you don’t get to choose who you fall in love with, and I’m sure that a lot of us have experienced falling in love with women with perfect eyesight or even women who dislike glasses. But what is pretty obvious is the fact that even we get attracted by a gorgeous woman with some really cool glasses, if the person isn’t someone who is on your wavelength, then the relationship will not hold water. We too are attracted to intelligence, sense of humor and all the traits that “normal” people are attracted to. Shortsightedness (or any other visual imperfection) is just another trait we look for in our love life partners, like some people look for certain political ideas or a certain musical taste. We look for someone who can share and understand our passion for glasses. It might seem something superficial, of course it hasn’t got the same importance as politics or music or art. And we know it. We can put it in its proper place. I mean, I wouldn’t be able to be in a relationship with someone who votes for an extreme right party or someone who likes Justin Bieber, but I could be in a relationship with someone who never wears glasses.
And I’m pretty sure that the reason we are attracted to (very) shortsighted women is not because that shows some vulnerability or dependence on “the man”, because we too like being (very) shortsighted ourselves. Don’t ask me why, but we do. I myself have asked a couple of therapists about it, and none of them came up with a convincing explanation.
My basic point is that our “thing” with glasses isn’t an overriding thing and it SHOULDN’T be a problem at all in your relationship with him. Why would it? If, say, he wants/needs you to keep your glasses on while having sex, why not do it? Why would that be a problem?
And from his point of view, I can’t tell you how great it would be for him if you could incorporate his “thing” with glasses into your daily life with normality. It would really make him very happy.
The only thing you might have to “put up with” is that you may find that he can’t help glancing on the streets at women who wear glasses, although nowadays there are so many, that we tend to get more selective, and only glance at those who are attractive and wear the right glasses (we tend to avoid those with fake lenses). But that would only be a minor quibble, wouldn’t it?
Anyway, I wish you the best with him, and would love to hear back from you in the future .
Soundmanpt 24 May 2016, 12:07
I do recall your earlier comments about this gentleman and your relationship. First of all I am really glad to hear that your still together. I was hoping that admission about his glasses fetish didn't ruin the relationship when so many other things seemed so perfect to you about him. I'm sure his thing for glasses must seem very strange you when you probably wished you didn't even need them at all. But to your credit even though this seemed strange to you, you didn't run the other direction from him. Look at it this way he could have had a much worse fetish than "glasses". Is there anything he says or does that troubles you about his thing for glasses? I guess what I am asking is if there is anything or time when he makes you feel uncomfortable about your glasses? You have to appreciate his being so honest and telling you about his obsession for glasses. Like you say you want your relationship to be an honest one that is being pretty honest. I think you will read in here about several men that not only have girlfriends that wear glasses that they have never told about there obsession for glasses but even several married en that they have never told their wife about their thing for their glasses. You seem completely happy with this fellow so I say you should just go for it and not let his glasses thing bother you. Hope that helped in some way. To be honest I dated a good number of women back in my dating days and nearly everyone of them wore glasses but I never once told any of them about my glasses fetish.
Dinah 24 May 2016, 11:29
Hi. I wrote a while back about a lovely man I had recently embarked on a relationship with who had admitted one evening that he had a "thing" for women in glasses. My husband died 3 years ago and I've been lonely and in a very dark place for much of the intervening time and so I was delighted to meet someone who seemed to be very much on my wavelength and who I hit it off with almost immediately. I was therefore a little taken aback by his admission and of course wondered if the fact that I wore glasses was the main reason he was interested in me. We're still together and we have discussed this attraction of his a few times and while I don't understand it, I do feel he likes (dare I say it loves?) me for who I am and that my eyesight is a bonus for him. It hasn't really played a major part in our relationship to be honest, I haven't really noticed him behaving differently towards me than other men I've known and we do have a wonderful time together. Anyway I will stop rambling on and get to the point. He has said that he has visited this site on occasions and he suggested that it might help me understand the attraction for short sighted women if I wrote about it on here and asked regular contributors for their take. So really I was just wondering if anyone can help me understand a little better. Your point of view would be very much appreciated.
Likelenses 08 May 2016, 22:06
As you stated it is important that myopes read at the proper distance.
You should not read printed material any closer than twelve inches,and not closer than twenty inches from a computer screen.
If you cam maintain these distances comfortably with the weaker prescription,but not with your distance prescription, then you need bifocals.
Astra 08 May 2016, 06:17
it is my un-informed habit to read with a lower rx .
i don't think i would like to have bifocal as of now , partly because i am not certain whether i need a close rx. i don't seem to have discomfort using my distance rx.
Likelenses 07 May 2016, 16:47
If the -4.00 / -4.25 weaker glasses give you the correct reading distance.and you use a stronger prescription for distance,then you should wear bifocals.
Beside the fact that you need them,girls in bifocals are really hot.
antonio 07 May 2016, 14:55
Nice to hear from you again, Astra,
best regards, antonio
Astra 07 May 2016, 06:06
I have a history of reluctant to wear glasses perhaps until age 25.
when I was younger like age 10-20 I would have some bad understanding about myopia. I thought it is normal to put books close to eyes when we are myopic .
But now I can realize , now I can have normal posture to read when wearing my glasses that is slightly more than minus 4 diopters L -4 R -4.25 (this is a weaker rx that was my distance rx 5 years ago so now I use for reading) , but unable to have normal posture to read without glasses. I would be very happy to realize it is so beautiful and comfortable to have good posture. Having normal posture would at least reduce my risk from neck pain, back pain and injured backbone caused by head sticking close to the screen .
I knew from someone in the optical industry that, my high-index lenses can block 90% UVA radiation and 99% UVB radiation that is very nice to know, and that I would thank my glasses so much partly because of that.
Astra 07 May 2016, 05:38
I actually think they should be happy to wear glasses because the reason I would most likely come to my mind is : contact lenses easily cause the cornea to become infected . I know most of them thought contact lenses are better, but I would not prefer contact lenses throughout my 27 years of life.
I was myopic since young age. about 20 years ago I was told by some ads telling me : I can control my myopia if I do not wear any minus lenses. I was thrilled by these ads because I liked to see other girls wearing glasses but disliked having to wear the glasses myself. I thought glasses was ugly. The minus lenses are showing my visual vulnerability that is myopia.
But as I lived through these years, I may have a rough estimate about the prevalence of myopia. Now I would normally expect most girls in their age 18-35 would need correction from minus lenses typically not within 1 or 2 diopters.
Now I realize there are some advantages of wearing glasses for girls , and that the myopia-cure ads was false : glasses are not harmful to my eyes. If I have no glasses with my rx or I cannot afford to have any glasses with my rx, my life would be even more miserable.
Soundmanpt 28 Apr 2016, 09:43
It seems that most Asian women wear glasses or contacts usually from a rather early age. It could be due to how much studying is done which brings on the need for glasses. It now seems like the rest of the world is beginning to catch up in that area since now more than 75% of the population now wears some form of vision correction. That number is even higher for women. But what is believed to have caused this increase is so many I-Phones and other devices with small type and texting has become so popular. Interesting that by the time you were 14 only 4 girls in your class weren't wearing either glasses or contacts, but before they turned 16, 3 of those girls were now wearing glasses. The one remaining holdout is now 19 and she is now wearing glasses as well. You of course seem to be very excited about wearing glasses and you seem to think that other girls are equally excited about needing glasses. What makes you think that since some of them wear contacts instead? I do agree with you that just seeing an attractive young lady wearing glasses is enough of a turn on for me. Her glasses don't have to be strong, in fact even if her glasses are extremely weak is okay with me. Like you I also enjoy the changes in their eyesight as time goes on. Since I order the glasses for quite a few of these young ladies and I love getting a call from them telling me that they got their eyes examined and they need me to order them new glasses because their eyes got a bit worse.
Astra 28 Apr 2016, 06:17
power ring can turn me on. such as these.
Astra 28 Apr 2016, 03:08
After age 14 there were not many girls in my class that were not wearing glasses or contact lenses . I got even more curious about these special girls that are not wearing either at that time because girls not wearing either was rare at that age. I got curious about the girls that are not seen wearing glasses , one of them being taller (about 1.7 m) , usually arranged back row of seat by the teacher . Eventually by age 15-16 I have seen three of the four remaining girls have to wear glasses with minus lenses to see the blackboard (or whiteboard). The taller girl appeared reluctant to wear her glasses full time . At age 17-19 we are no longer in the same class. By the time we graduated from high school at age 19. Now at year 2016, on the public photo album of the final day of school I can see her finally wearing the glasses, facing left unfortunately so that we can't see further detail about her face. Wearing minus lenses with a full-framed glasses is one of the most wonderful thing happened in my life, and I assume this is true for most girls.
Astra 28 Apr 2016, 02:43
reply to Soundmanpt 20160314
I agree that unknown girls can be wonderful to watch. Now I am not genuinely loving or care about any girls. But it was a wonderful experience to know there was a website known as eyescene ten years ago. I realize I am not alone, can be secretly collecting information about girls wearing glasses , wanted to track how their rx changes , how they wear different glasses with different rx , occasionally i can be curious about the physical problems of their glasses, such as scratches, rotated frames. It is interesting to see how some of those girls changed rx with the same frame, or changing glasses with very similar design that almost appear they are the same frame.
27 Apr 2016, 01:26
Jes - I'm with you on this one, and have done this quite a few times with GOC, as posted on the GOC section. I don't wear glasses at all, but recently bought a pair of aviators as my next pair to get reglazed with my GOC prescription. They're a used pair of glasses with a weak prescription, probably only -1.5 or something like that and wearing them with such a weak prescription just doesn't have the same feeling / buzz as with much stronger lenses. I too have noticed reactions and people looking a lot more than I think they normally would when I've worn my strong glasses. I have about 5 different pairs, with 3 of them having a prescription of approx -9.5/-10, and the other pairs are -13
lurking 26 Apr 2016, 20:04
Tom1/Jess: I share both of your desires but mostly I lean more toward wearing my minus 20 glasses over my +13 contacts. I usually get at least one or two stares whenever I go out wearing these glasses as the lenses are over a half inch thick. I guess I have some exhibitionist in me because I love going barefoot when I'm out in public with my thick glasses.
Tom1 26 Apr 2016, 14:55
I have a similar obsession for sighting on me, but opposite: I love going around bareeyed and wonder if people around me realise I can't see or not... (I'm pretty sure usually not)
JES 26 Apr 2016, 05:02
Some time ago I bought a pair of used glasses from my local flee-market. My own prescription is a mild -3. I have always wanted a stronger prescription and have felt attracted to people (women) wearing strong negative glasses. Today I wore these glasses that I had bought publicly. I went to a shopping mall and walked around wearing these coke-bottles. I don't actually know the strength of these lenses but I have a guess that the left lens is about twice as strong as mine and the right lens about three times my own prescription. That would be -6 and -9!
The lenses are very thick because the frame size is 59mm and the lenses are standard thickness. My eyes looked so very small behind these glasses and cut-in is clearly noticeable. I felt very attractive walking around in these. This was a long waited for moment, and I also thought I noticed a couple of women looking at me, staring and thinking.."oh my, that bloke must be really nearsighted.."
A nice experience altogether.. Anyone else into this kind of thing..?
Likelenses 09 Apr 2016, 20:28
It is most likely you that posts under various names,always making statements like these,and unable to offer any proof.
Why would anyone believe a person like you that lies?
JJ Jackson 09 Apr 2016, 16:35
Just a note of caution, Dinah... this board does *not* have as wide a cross section as you might be lead to believe. in truth, there are only about 10 guys or less here and they make up female names and write back and forth to each other. I guess looking at it that way it is funny and comical.
Likelenses 06 Apr 2016, 23:53
Yes you do have a very high prescription,but I am certain that you look beautiful in glasses.
lentifan 06 Apr 2016, 08:51
I'm sure I would find a lady wearing glasses with your prescription much more attractive than without glasses, but, unlike some of the other contributors here, I don't think that seeing you struggle without your glasses, or knowing that you are so dependent on them, has much to do with their erotic appeal for me.
It's the aesthetics of the glasses themselves and the way (in the case of minus lenses) the eyes sparkle behind the lenses. Well, maybe a little bit is to do with your dependence on them - to be precise, the way you probably hold things a little closer to your eyes when looking at them or reading. I find that very cute.
I'm glad you're continuing your relationship and hope that it develops well for both of you.
Dinah 05 Apr 2016, 11:18
I'm sure the people on here are from a wide cross section of the population. Don't get me wrong, a lot of the posts on here are very articulate and informed and I'm not trying to be judgemental. What I do notice is that most of the replies concentrate on the aesthetic of a woman wearing glasses and while I can quite agree that women can look very attractive in glasses (I hope so anyway), I do believe that there is a subtext here whereby it's the fact that they can't see well that provides much of the attraction. I'm finding it hard to rationalise the thought that me displaying my poor vision in some way could provoke a sexual reaction in a man. I do struggle with my vision often, even when wearing glasses and it never crossed my mind that it could have an erotic element.
Anyway I'm still seeing the lovely man I wrote about, I think he's too good to give up over something like this, although it will take me some time to understand I think. I haven't mentioned the issue at all since but I do intend to bring it up again when the time is right.
Oh and to answer some of your other questions. I live in England and my glasses prescription is a bit complicated but goes something like this:
Right eye -22.00 sph -2.50 cyl 120 axis +3.00 add
Left eye -23.25 sph -2.25 cyl 100 axis +3.00 add
Likelenses 04 Apr 2016, 20:55
Where are you located? I am in the U.S.
JohnnyB 04 Apr 2016, 13:26
Dinah, I think the list which Likelens posted applies to most of us here. Glasses is not the absolute deciding factor but it factors in. I've seen photos of some users of this board and overall they appear to be a normal, some even pretty attractive, and professional people. Call it what you may, but I certainly don't want to label it. Sounds like you feel somewhat betrayed by your man, but if you're compatible I think it's unfortunate to end a relationship just for this. Not attempting to preach so apologies if it sounds as such.
Crystal Veil 04 Apr 2016, 09:31
before checking out my weblog as kindly suggested by Leo in Perth, I suggest you read my post from March 13th on this thread first. It sums up the personal background from which I started my photography project with "Ladies behind crystal veil". The photos will make more sense to you after reading a bit about the way I look at ladies in glasses with high prescriptions.
LEO in PERTH 04 Apr 2016, 06:01
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Likelenses 03 Apr 2016, 21:21
I am glad that our input has you thinking.
I do think that you are over analyzing this.
I,and am certain that most here feel the same,look for the attributes in a woman that all guys look for,and find attractive in a woman.Most of us would not put glasses,or poor vision at the top of the list.
My list would be in this order.
1. Physically attractive face,and figure
2. A fun personality,and a little shy, or reserved
3. Somewhat adventuresome
4. Intelligent,and a good communicator
5. Honest,and moral
6. Politically Conservative
7. Wears glasses
I prefer nearsighted,over farsighted,as I also am nearsighted. Perhaps a kindred spirit thing.
There are also some women here that are highly attracted to guys in glasses.
We are usually interested in a persons prescription,because there are certain effects that we feel enhance a person's eyes.Generally the stronger the prescription the more lovely the enhancement.
Dinah 03 Apr 2016, 13:46
Thanks to those who replied to my post. I'm still trying to process what this all means. Maybe I'm overanalysing? It would be the first time. I know he finds me attractive, or at least he's said so. I'm not in bad shape for my age, I'm a member of a running club and still run semi-competitively and I like to keep myself as healthy and fit as I can. I like to think I'm still attractive and very feminine and so maybe as was intimated, the fact that I wear strong glasses is just the icing on the cake and not the whole deal. I'm going to just go with it and see where this relationship takes me. I may end up getting hurt but nothing ventured, nothing gained. I think, as one of you put it, I should be grateful that he's been honest with me. That has to be worth something doesn't it?
I notice a couple of you asked what my prescription is. I'm not sure what to think about that. Why do you ask? I could hunt out the piece of paper and write the numbers down verbatim because I don't know them off the top of my head but be assured it's very high. I have worn glasses all my life and they've been on my face, save for a brief flirtation with contact lenses in the late 70's, every waking hour. I grab them before I get out of bed and wear them till I'm back in bed and about to turn the light out. I really can't do anything unless I'm wearing them. I don't even think about them much to be honest, the need to put them on in the morning is pretty much an unconscious act.
I wonder if anyone can describe to me why a woman being so dependent on glasses elicits such an erotic response in some/all of you.
LEO in PERTH 03 Apr 2016, 04:10
Beautiful story !!
Pseldonymov 01 Apr 2016, 07:37
Very interesting. I have similar feelings.
Now I miss working at an optical store.